Advice needed

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We have my partner's son every four day and this has carried on during lock down. But we have found out that his mum has still being taking him round to her mums house during lock down. This concerns us as her mum works in a care home.
We has spoken to my partner's ex and asked her if she would not do this as it could put him at risk. She says she is only taking him when she needs to go shopping so she doesn't have to take him with her. Which is understandable. So we suggested she goes does her shopping when we have him. To which she told us to f@#$ off as it had nothing to do with us and she will not be changing her routine and will carry on taking him to her mums.
Now I dont know what to do as I dont think we should be having him anymore as we also have a three year old and dont want to put her at risk too. But then again I dont really want to stop my partners son from coming as we love having him. Advice needed please xxxx

Wow, she's being very unreasonable.
I'd understand if she was only paid on one of the days she has her son,and could only do her shopping then but if its just to keep a routine
Everybody has had to change up routines during this time.
That being said, you cannot control what she does or where she goes. So it's really up to you and your partner if you can continue to take his child... I'm sure he does not want to miss out on seeing them.

Perhaps he should have another word with her and mention again the risk it poses to you and your own child...

To which she told us to f@#$ off as it had nothing to do with us

It absolutely does have somthing to do with you, you're at risk of contracting covid.
People amaze me

She’s a selfish cow. Sigh. Why is she putting herself and her child at risk when there’s a perfectly good solution you can provide.

Would it make it worse if dp phoned just ex mother in law and find her his concerns? And what he would like to do to help.

We have spoken to her mum and shes just the same. They just come up with excuses after excuses. I've had to take a step back as it's making me really cross that they are putting him at risk. And it's starting to affect me and my partner.

Probably best for you to stay out of it for now and let partner deal with it.

I am trying to. But it's so hard. Just hope she can realise where we are coming from. And that we only have his and everybody's safety in mind. Thanks everybody. It's just nice to be able to talk to other people about it. As I think my partner is fed up of me going on about it.

I totally understand. It must be so hard trying to bite your lip.

This pandemic has really shown who the careless idiots are.

I hope you and your family stay safe and well and hopefully that selfish cow will come to her senses and think about others.