Single parent to a DC who falls into the vulnerable but not shielding category.
They’re not seeing their father (he’s used it as an excuse to not see them nothing to do with me). I drive but don’t own my own car as I can’t afford to (I work but only 12 hours a week due to DCs medical condition meaning I need to be available for medical appointments and weekly therapies).
I have a family member who can’t work atm due to his own medical conditions but he drives. Apart from walking his dogs once a day he’s going nowhere (he admits he walks one dog in the morning then the other in the evening but both walks are less than ½ a mile in length and take him approximately 15 minutes – usually he’d walk them together then have a bike ride but he didn’t want to be seen to be breaking rules – he talks to no-one else on these walks and no longer lets the dogs off lead). He lives alone.
So what we’ve been doing is he has been driving down the supermarket, sitting on the car park with DC in his car. I’ve been going into the shop doing a weeks shopping for both households. Then loading the car up with the shopping, I then walk home with DC and FM drives my shopping home. He drops mine in my communal hallway (I live in a block of flats) and then sitting in his car until I get home (to make sure shopping doesn’t get stolen). I’m usually about 10 minutes behind him. Once I’m home he drives back to his house and doesn’t go out again apart from for dog walks.
He says it’s helping seeing my DC once a week, even though my DC is quite young and generally chats nonsense. He also says he feels useful helping me like this as he’s not allowed to help with his volunteer job or his paid work due to his medical condition at the moment (they’ll call him in if they need him but they have healthier people in the volunteer role atm and his paid job is none essential).
I feel this is the best way to protect my DC from CV and also my family member as if either got it then they’d be seriously ill. But I am prepared to be slaughtered by AIBU for breaking the rules.
AIBU?