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To think people should stop taking photos

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Lexijayde44 · 21/04/2020 08:10

I'm not saying there are not some idiots hanging about in groups being stupid. By all means they deserve the police dining them etc etc. What I'm not comfortable with is locals taking pictures of other locals and putting them on Facebook page to tell the other locals what they are doing.

New rules do say you can sit on a bench for a quick rest. Theres no crime eating something whilst outdoors etc.

A family two parents and three kids were sat on a picnic table. nowhere near anyone. The kids were eating crisps. Someone photographed them. Put them on Facebook. They are now getting called all the names!

Firstly are we allowed to take pictures of other peoples kids now? I find it weird and inappropriate.

Secondly is it ok to throw People to the lions on Facebook?

Thirdly who are we to judge without facts? There is no crime in a five minute stop on a long walk. You can have a snack on you. How does anyone know the ins and outs of a person's health? I take snacks out with me because when my blood sugar levels drop I feel awful pretty quickly. I'm anemic and my energy is really poor.

I've seen people taking photos of so many different things in this crises. If you would t like someone taking pictures of your family and especially your children I would like to think you wouldnt do it to someone else!

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ScarletFever · 21/04/2020 08:13

I dont think we should be taking photos and shaming, but people need to stop stopping for a sodding picnic.

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Lexijayde44 · 21/04/2020 08:16

How is a sensible family out for a walk going to be at any higher risk for eating some crisps? I'm not talking about a picnic lol!

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Mucklowe · 21/04/2020 08:19

People criticise North Korea and China for inculcating their populations to snitch on one another. Truth is, it's a tendency that is common in human nature, regardless of the society and culture. We're all secret snidely grasses underneath it all.

Abbccc · 21/04/2020 08:20

It's very rude and very wrong. People need to be able to leave their homes without risking ending up on social media. You don't know their circumstances and you might even put people at risk by putting their photo on SM.

But the rules haven't changed.

TabbyMumz · 21/04/2020 08:20

People get carried away with themselves. Facebook is a bullying mechanism. Of course it's not ok to take pictures of other people and so called name and shame them. Its embarrasing and makes the poster look stupid.

Also, they are only demonstrating that they arent keeping up to date with the rules. Someone put a picture up on our local fb of 4 cars parked at a local park. The comment was "how bad is this, people driving to their walk"...when people are allowed to drive to their walk.

heartsonacake · 21/04/2020 08:22

Firstly are we allowed to take pictures of other peoples kids now? I find it weird and inappropriate.

If you are in a public space, legally anyone can take a photo of you and no, they don’t need your permission regardless of age.

Whether it’s morally correct or appropriate is another matter, but if you or your children are in a public place, you can be photographed.

WhyCantIThinkOfAGoodOne · 21/04/2020 08:22

I agree. I'm annoyed my teenagers congregating in the park but people are photographing any pairs of teenagers and assuming they're mates meeting up, could easily just be siblings.

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Lexijayde44 · 21/04/2020 08:23

I know! On our local page the other day a local shared you can infact drive a small way to a place for excercise. Someone responded well just because you can doesn't mean you should.then an army backed him up. I thought so despite the law and us being told what we can Do. Paul on Facebook refuses to respect people have the choice and will bully you if he catches you going for a walk in the woods a five minute drive away.

Just finding humans far too invested in others at the moment.

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ThomasHardyPerennial · 21/04/2020 08:27

I've never really understood why people think it's ok to take photos of strangers. Whether it's shaming people during the lockdown, or shaming people who the photographer thinks is dressed badly (like wearing a dressing gown down the shops). It is just horrible judgmental, sneering behaviour.

CorianderLord · 21/04/2020 08:28

I don't think children should be photographed. I have friends who have adopted and this could lead to the child being located by parties who have no right to their location.

I would report the photo.

EricaNernie · 21/04/2020 08:30

People are Shit

gandalf456 · 21/04/2020 08:32

I didn't think it was legal if it was going to be published? If you put it on sm, it counts as publishing.

Schools, scouting and other organisations all seek parental permission

HandfulOfFlowers · 21/04/2020 08:35

This lockdown is bringing out the worst in vigilante justice seeking across the country. People whose lives are otherwise dull and insignificant are having a field day. I find it repellant.

MoonBlood · 21/04/2020 08:38

Naming and shaming is another one that seems to be on the rise.

In my area recently three people who live together had gone for a walk after one of them had attended a doctors appointment. They took the car and stopped at a field on their way home, same estate as they live on so not far at all, perfectly within guidelines and someone posted a pic of their car on Facebook, soon there were links to their profiles, people calling them all sorts. They got back to the car which had been pelted with eggs and people were reporting them to the police. I don’t know these people personally but know of them as they live close and saw the whole thing play out on Facebook, but there were literally hundreds of people piling on the Facebook posts abusing them, it was bloody shocking!

VivaLeBeaver · 21/04/2020 08:38

I hate all the stuff I've seen on the online daily mail (I know I shouldn't look) who seem to have a story every day where they've being in wait outside The Range/Home Bargains to photo people coming out with lamp shades, etc. But 99% of them have a carrier bag with other unidentified stuff which could well be food!

Ulver · 21/04/2020 08:38

You can ask for photos to be deleted if they are of you.
Send an official complaint to Facebook and a request to delete.

SoupDragon · 21/04/2020 08:41

a sensible family out for a walk

A sensible family put for a walk wouldn't be sitting on a picnic bench eating crisps. Crisps are well known for their cunning packaging which allows them to be eaten on the go. Sitting down for a snack isn't the same as a rest o a bench (which I imagine came about from older people or those with health issues being vilified for needing to sit down rather than allowing a family to sit down and munch crisps). I guess the guy DS saw when he was out on a run was just being "sensible" as he rested in the sun with a beer.

No, they shouldn't have had their photos taken but they aren't at all "sensible"

TheFuckingDogs · 21/04/2020 08:46

Yes they are being “sensible”! If they’re physical distancing from others and are all of the same household they’re being sensible!
Even the guy sitting alone in the sun with a beer is potentially being “sensible” depending on where you live, how built you your area is etc

DdraigGoch · 21/04/2020 08:47

There was a poster on here recently who was boasting of "naming and shaming" her neighbour for not clapping.

isabellerossignol · 21/04/2020 08:48

I didn't think it was legal if it was going to be published? If you put it on sm, it counts as publishing.

Schools, scouting and other organisations all seek parental permission

That's to protect the organisations more than to protect the people.

It's perfectly legal to take photos of anyone or anything in public places. When you see something like the Royals standing in front of a crowd of hundreds, including children, how could they possibly have given permission?

Mind you, that doesn't mean that it's morally right to take, and publish, photos of strangers. Context is everything.

sonjadog · 21/04/2020 08:49

New made-up MN rules! The quality and packaging of the snack decides whether or not you are permitted to stop and eat it. I think we might be reaching peak ridiculous.

clareOclareO · 21/04/2020 08:52

If you're in a public place, you can be photographed. This includes children.

"Sitting on a bench" for a quick rest is OK but drastically increases the risk of catching something, because it is direct physical contact with an object touched by however many unknown people. I'd be wary about eating outside at the moment too, especially something that needs to be eaten with the hands when washing facilities aren't available.

It's one thing if it's warm outside and you need to drink from a bottle of water during your exercise. But crisps seem unnecessary - wait til you get home.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 21/04/2020 08:54

I thought I was going to be “moved along” yesterday. I took the dog to our local park for her walk. I was sitting on the grass flinging a ball for her and two police officers on bicycles stopped opposite me and stood talking to a man at his front garden gate for about 20 minutes. I walk a bit/sit for a bit/walk for a bit ... They didn’t say anything but then I was totally alone in the park area.

If someone had “outed me” on Facebook I’d have been very upset. I cannot stand and throw the ball, it’s easier to sit. Then, it takes me all my time to get up and get moving again. I have a slipped disk, arthritis and squashed nerve which is causing numbness down my left leg. I COULD stand, but not for long.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 21/04/2020 08:55

Should add, even when it’s cold and tipping it down, I have to sit on the wet grass. It’s NOT about the sunshine ☀️