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Sleep Apnea

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MadameBee · 20/04/2020 23:27

It’s killing our sex life.

Before diagnosis it was the snoring.

Now it’s the oxygen mask (like sleeping within a naked person in life support who occasionally turns over and blows air directly into your face)

Then in the morning he farts and farts and burps because all the machine has done all night is fill him with air, and the room is full of the smell of his rancid farts and he then tries it on with me - sometimes before removing the fucking mask.

Anyone else?

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MadameBee · 20/04/2020 23:32

Sorry about the typos ... tired 🤣🤣

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Brogley · 20/04/2020 23:59

DH has a CPAP machine due to a health condition that causes apnea and I've never noticed him being farty or burping, are you sure it's the machine causing it? I quite like his, the white noise is soothing. No air coming out so long as he has it fitted properly, it's only if it slips that I feel air.

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MadameBee · 21/04/2020 00:06

I hate it so much Sad

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MadameBee · 21/04/2020 00:06

But I hate the snoring too ...

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Brogley · 21/04/2020 00:18

Could he speak to his consultant about changing the style of mask? There's the full face one but also ones that just cover the nose and also ones that use nasal prongs rather than an actual mask.

Trying it on while he's wearing it is a bit much though, tell him that's not on. Usually DH gets up for the loo around 4/5am and leaves it off from then as he's not in such a deep sleep by that point but his apnea isn't obstructive so that's an option, it would depend on how much he needs the CPAP and for how long.

Is the machine a relatively new thing?

soapboxqueen · 21/04/2020 00:45

I find the noise of the machine quite soothing. Yes it does sometimes blow air in my face but I just put a pillow up as a shield and it's far better than the snoring.

Yes cpaps can push air into the stomach etc My dh finds this very painful. It is a known side effect which is why we are considering getting a variable pressure one privately to see if this will reduce this happening. It can sometimes make him a bit farty but to be honest, they don't really smell because it's just air.

I'm not really sure what to say about the look of the equipment though. It's there for a medical reason. He needs it to stay healthy.

ViciousJackdaw · 21/04/2020 01:30

Can the stench of the farts be reduced? A change in diet or some charcoal tablets, if they are still a thing?

Aquamarine1029 · 21/04/2020 01:39

Is he obese?

Zombiemum1946 · 21/04/2020 01:51

It sounds like the mask needs to be adjusted. If it doesn't fit properly the pressure is increased and causes swallowing of air and therefore problems with wind. My dh had to adjust his and added to the padding on the mask to make it sit better. He was often in excruciating pain with the wind. Look at changes to diet, exercise, medications and sleeping position as well as the fitting of the mask. Keep wind meds by the bed. I like the sound from dh cpap machine but his apnea has scared me since we met so I suppose it's a comforting sound to me now. Head phones and ear plugs can also help.

Rosebel · 21/04/2020 03:15

My husband has one of those masks and God it's noisy. It is not much better than him snoring. Hence the reason i.I'm awake at 3am. Don't know how our poor baby is going to sleep when he arrives.
My husband farts a lot anyway so not noticed the difference there.
Annoyingly he was due to go back to the hospital this week so I hoped it would get sorted (well I hoped they'd suggest something else) but obviously that's been cancelled. So tired and uncomfortable. On the sofa at the moment but it's not made for comfortable sleeping. No advice I'm afraid but do feel your pain and exhaustion.

mamalicious3030 · 21/04/2020 03:55

I feel your pain. My husband is constantly farting and stinking. It's awful and now I don't want to be around him or sleep in the same bed as him. He doesn't take this seriously at all and it sounds ridiculous but it has really had an affect on our relationship from my end of things. He is surrounded by stink. It's all over the house, at breathing in poo smell all through the night I cannot stand it. I don't really have any advice but I hope you do not get to my point where now I'm so put off by the smell that I stop finding him attractive. My husband doesn't get it. I hope yours will.

Ginfordinner · 21/04/2020 07:33

DH needs a CPAP machine. It doesn't cause the issues your other half has. TBH I can't see why it would. I suspect he isn't wearing a correctly fitting mask, or he isn't using it properly.

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MadameBee · 21/04/2020 08:58

Thanks, some of these replies have really made me chuckle 🤣🤣

I like the noise of the machine, and it was me who suggested it might be sleep apnea but yes I do suspect the mask is too small.

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Pika09 · 21/04/2020 09:28

The burping and farting is caused by your Dh trying to "eat" the air being supplied by the cpap. This is in turn caused by the air making your dh mouth dehydrated/dry.

There is a humidifier attachment for most cpap machines that will stop your dh mouth getting too dry and stop the farting/burping

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