Shared cooking

[Surly]

Fully prepared to be told I'm in the wrong here.
I am currently not working, DP is working from home on customer service calls 12 to 8 but realistically could get work done in 4 hours if he stopped ringing his mates for a chat all day.
I have 2 primary school level DC who I solely homeschool right now from 9 til about 2.
I do it on my own as DP hasnt expressed any interest to do it and when I've asked him to do maths or something with one DC while I help the other I find him on his phone and he doesnt even know where the DC is!
My question is about cooking.
We take it in turns to cook dinner but DP is saying I should be doing it myself as hes working. AIBU to expect him to do it every other time?

Is he contracted to do 8 hours?

Are they his DC?

How do you each contribute financially to the household?

Personally, if I wasn't working and DH was working an 8 hour day from home, I wouldn't expect him to contribute to homeschooling and I'd also cook dinner, at least on weeknights.

He is being unreasonable. What is he like generally before lockdown? Assuming he doesn’t always work from home?

My partner is still going to work. We have two children. When he’s not at work he helps with the home learning, we share cooking but he cooks more as he enjoys it but I do most of the housework, he bathes the children whilst I clean up before bedtime. We share bedtime duties. I couldn’t do it all on my own despite not working right now.

Would he expect you to do it all if you were working from home too? You are meant to be a team. He needs to buck up.

Also don’t put too much pressure on yourself home schooling. 9-2 seems a lot. Children are in school all day but take play time, lunch, assembly etc etc off they don’t learn all day. Also the teacher is teaching 30 kids. There’s no way I’m home schooling the kids for 5 hours! It’s been so sunny we’ve been in the garden more than we’ve been home learning!

My elder DC has work sent to him on Teams and he works his way through it, he does need my help but in between he takes breaks and entertains himself. The younger DC has work sent on a Monday and we work through it but a lot is learning through play and she has plenty of breaks but because while ones playing the other needs my help so it takes til 2 ish roughly.
Financially I contribute maybe 25 percent overall.
He doesn't need to work 8 hours, he faffs around all day. I do lunch everyday and everything else with the children, he joins us for exercise. He does bath the youngest so it's not like he does nothing but I dont think I should be doing all the cleaning and cooking.

If he's working 12-8, and I presume dinner is before 8pm then you should do dinner. It doesn't matter that you believe he should have his work done in 4 hours, I guess he's employed to work for 8 hours.

If he’s working and you’re not then you should be cooking dinner.

How would you feel if your husband expected you to cook for him after you’d worked an 8 hour shift?

He doesnt work 8 hours. He will work a maximum of 4. The rest of the time he is on his phone playing games or chatting to his friends

But does he need to be visibly at his computer for 8 hours?

If he's on support calls I'd guess he needs to be sitting there ready to pick up emails/IMs/answer calls, even if the calls aren't solidly coming in.

Sometimes I could do all I need to in 4 hours but I need to be sitting there online for the full duration in case anything came in. If I buggered off for 2 hours but missed 2 5min calls I'd be in trouble.

But what is he contracted to @Surly? My DP could get he's done in a few hours some days but is contracted 7am - 4:30pm... contracted hours, and working to finish a task are very different things?

He does call backs and has about 4 to 10 to do in a day. Once it's done its done he doesnt need to be on til 8 o clock. He does need to keep an eye on his email in case more customers need calling back.
I will accept though that most people think I'm unreasonable. Maybe I need a rethink how we do this then I suppose.

He is taking the piss. Like most men he considers himself above womens work.

If I was contracted to do eight hours from home and DH didn’t work I’d expect him to do the meals, housework and help with schoolwork for an equal amount of time. Only fair if one is shouldering the financial responsibility for all that the other does the rest.

If he is working and you aren't then you should do the homeschooling and the dinner every week day.