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Trampolines

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Rivendell2013 · 20/04/2020 19:55

Hi all, my neighbour has just knocked at my door and asked me to take down the trampoline in our garden because it encroaches on her privacy. She said that the children bouncing and looking at her in her garden "makes her feel uncomfortable". The trampoline has been up for one day and the only reason I bought it was so that my boys have something to do in the garden during lockdown. Also it was my sons 10th birthday present. I am a high risk person so cant go out and i'm home schooling 2 boys each day. The boys stay at their dads for 3 days a week as well. Am I being unreasonable telling her that it isn't coming down?

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Treacletoots · 20/04/2020 19:57

Firstly, I think you are being very unreasonable. I've been waiting 3 weeks now for mine and it still hasn't arrived, so you need to send it to me.

Obviously joking, but.... When planning for ours we did look at how we could screen the Trampoline so that we didn't have an issue with such complaints. We've bought in some willow to screen around it, when it finally arrives..

onceandneveragain · 20/04/2020 20:00

I hate trampolines and the one next door to me drives me mad but even I have to accept that it's their garden so up to them what they put in it.

Presumably unless your house is a bungalow you can see into her garden from your upstairs rooms any way so not sure what she's on about with privacy.

If you wanted to be a nice neighbour you could agree a set time that you can guarantee they won't be using it (say before lunchtime, or after 4pm or whatever) so she still has some time she can chill in her garden without the relentless squeaking, but up to you!

Crazycrazylady · 20/04/2020 20:01

Now I agree thats it's not Ideal for your neighbours but when you live in estates you have to expect that some houses with kids will have trampolines .
I'd teach your kids not to stare into her garden and ask them not to engage and after that she can go jump

Polkadotdelight · 20/04/2020 20:01

Can you peg some throws to the outside of the netting on her side?

LIZS · 20/04/2020 20:01

How tall are the fences? Are your dc deliberately looking over or shouting? Can you put it anywhere else, less intrusive.

Dalmatian88 · 20/04/2020 20:01

YABU - it really is not nice to sit in your garden and have children stare at you.

YeahWhatevver · 20/04/2020 20:03

You want privacy? Buy a house in the middle of nowhere away from families.

What a complete joy leach.

Pin/peg a sheet to her side to stop the kids overlooking.

I suspect she'll be over to compla8next about their giggling and noise.

Malvinaa81 · 20/04/2020 20:04

I loathe trampolines and all who jump on them!

EggysMom · 20/04/2020 20:05

Very sorry but it's just something that we all now have to accept - neighbours will have trampolines in their gardens, children will jump, and sometimes those children will look into other gardens. Since home trampolines have become very popular, it's difficult to avoid them. Your neighbour is being unreasonable.

BanjoStarz · 20/04/2020 20:06

To be fair, if it’s only gone up today and she’s already knocked - And you don’t normally have issues with her as a neighbour - I’d see if you could locate it elsewhere or investigate screening it so your children can’t see into her garden.

It must be bad for her to have said something this quickly (again assuming she’s normally reasonable and doesn’t have any prior issues with you/your children).

Pootle40 · 20/04/2020 20:06

Yep sorry she is being unreasonable - move to the middle of nowhere would be my response to that in this current lockdown. Unless as someone else says there is a place in the garden that doesn't overlook her. Honestly!

ThePlantsitter · 20/04/2020 20:07

Don't take it down. But there must be a way to screen her garden from view. If you want to maintain relations, do that.

Bagelsandbrie · 20/04/2020 20:07

Is there any way you can move it to a different area?

I’d say you’ll tell your kids not to peek in the garden but I wouldn’t take it down. I have neighbours who have a 12 ft trampoline in their garden and when they go on it they can see right in my kitchen / diner extension. I don’t care. I’m sure they’ve seen me wandering round in my (hideous) lounge wear picking my nose or whatever else. Does it really matter? I think you have to turn a blind eye to these things when you live next to people. I think your neighbour is unreasonable. These are hard times for kids.

Janaih · 20/04/2020 20:07

I used to live next door to a childminder, I feel your neighbour's pain.

PumpkinP · 20/04/2020 20:08

Where on earth have you managed to find one I’ve been looking for weeks for dds birthday and they are sold out everywhere! (Online) had to go with a bouncy castle in the end which will probably only last a few days Before it gets a hole!

Anyway yanbu, could you move it to the other side though?

gingganggooleywotsit · 20/04/2020 20:08

Your neighbour is being very unreasonable, it's just too bad!

Teacher12345 · 20/04/2020 20:08

Ignore and carry on. Not unreasonable to give the kids a way of releasing energy.

DysonFury · 20/04/2020 20:10

The miserable old stick can do one. Ask her what she thinks she does that would fascinate your kids so much.

AnnaNimmity · 20/04/2020 20:10

she's being unreasonable. Ignore her. silly cow.

CelestialSpanking · 20/04/2020 20:11

YANBU she’s being ridiculous and if she wants total and utter quiet don’t live side by side other people.

Brogley · 20/04/2020 20:12

Remind the kids not to deliberately stare into her garden or shout/speak to her and leave it at that, they're playing in their own garden and she's been unreasonable to demand you take it down.

I'm lucky with my neighbours, the elderly couple over the back have a 6ft fence but when they hear my DC in the garden will call through it to say good morning/afternoon and that they hope they're being good. DH asked if the DC bother then and they said no, there were no children in the street for a good many years as they'd all grown up and moved on so its nice to have you g ones back in the street again.

HarrietTheShy · 20/04/2020 20:12

You're the one disturbing her, so YABU to refuse to do anything to miniminse that. Can you not move it away from the fence?

BobbinThreadbare123 · 20/04/2020 20:13

I absolutely hate trampolines. My NDN have one for their grandkids and they are so obnoxious with it. But... Children do love them, they're good exercise and it keeps them occupied for ages. Can you screen it somehow? As long as they're not shrieking or screaming when they play, it is liveable I suppose.

Baseline2815 · 20/04/2020 20:13

No you shouldn't take it down. Depending on your neignbour, I.would offer a compromise (no jumping between 10 and 2, for example, or after a certain time in the evening) or pinning a sheet to the side of the net is easily done.

Otherwise, she needs to accept that children jumping on a trampoline during reasonable hours is entirely reasonable.

arethereanyleftatall · 20/04/2020 20:13

All these responses one way or the other, without any where near enough info!

Surely it depends entirely on how high your fences are, how close to the fence it is, whether your boys are peering at her etc etc

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