To report this?

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My ExH has a cleaner, who has continued to work during lockdown. She has a 10 year old son who has been going with her to ExH's house. I found out about this directly from ExH, and when I challenged him about it (pointing out it breaks the rules of lockdown) he said they both wore masks and maintained a 2m rule.

We share equal time with our 2 children, and when I went to pick up the children from ExH the other day, they came out of the living room, followed directly by the cleaner's son. No masks. No 2m distancing. They had apparently been playing video games together.

I am not happy about the kids being put at higher risk than they need to be, but me pointing out that ExH is breaking the rules has not changed things.

AIBU to report it to the police? Yes, I know they have better things to do than this, but he is putting my kids at risk and that's not okay, and I have no idea how else to get it to stop.

(I have tried suggesting for him to just to pay the cleaner and tell her not to come. That didn't go down well.)

Simple don't send the kids.

I don't think the police will pursue this but you could always stop sending the kids. The risk to your children is minimal but it is annoying that they're deliberately contributing to the spread of the virus.

I'd take that to mean he doesn't want to see the kids.

He can do his own cleaning, pay her if he can, or even half pay and she stays at home. If he can't manage to understand that or say no when she turns up with her son then the kids can't go over.

I know it's tough for her and if she can't leave son at home or have someone watch him but your ex is being an idiot.

They are with him currently. Cleaner due on Wednesday. Due back with me on Thurs.

I’d let that be the last time unless he agrees to stop the cleaner coming to the house.

I'd be going to get them Tuesday and if he kicks up a fuss he's more than welcome to call the police (assuming contact is court ordered?)

No we have no court order.

I think it would be pretty awful to report him- it’s in your kids’ best interests that you maintain a positive coparenting relationship and that’s not going to happen if you send the police round. I agree with PPs- don’t send the kids over if you are not happy with the risk (which is reasonable). Or insist the cleaner comes when the kids are not there if you would be happy with that leave of risk.

What do you think the police would do ? A cleaner is a keyworker ,

If the cleaner is a keyworker, her son could be at school, surely?

Ah there is conflicting infornation about keyworker status sorry,but I still wouldn't phone the police try and work it out with him

He'll just tell me it's none of my business what he does.

Could your children stay with him for the rest of the time?

It's not good but assuming she is a lone parent and not going anywhere else then she will only be coming into contact with your children and ex and then going home. Unless she has other cleaning jobs.