For background in 2008 my husband lost his job just days before our second was born. After this he began drinking heavily every night as in 6 cans and spirits. This was a really hard time as I was caring for 2 under 2s, the youngest also had colic and he was useless just drinking and sleeping. After I said I was leaving if he didn't stop he did quit drinking for a year.
Since then he still drinks but only 3 or so and only on weekends. Although he was working at the beginning of lockdown he's not now and has begun drinking again every night. He had 12 cans this weekend. He agreed to cut down on his drinking but it's just words.
I'm due in June and am terrified of being in the same situation, although he doesn't drink spirits anymore. I'm assuming if he goes back to work he'll stop drinking but i can't be sure.
I'm not controlling, he can drink but every night and 6 cans is surely excessive. I tried telling him I'm worried but just got accused of not trusting him and bringing up the past.
Am I being unreasonable to think his drinking is excessive? Or maybe everyone is drinking more in these circumstances?