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AIBU?

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AIBU to stay with family this week?

12 replies

Adviseplease1 · 19/04/2020 18:18

I know it’s against the lockdown rules but I feel really unsafe at home at the moment. I’d appreciate any advise.

I’m having issues with my neighbour - they’ve been treating their child appallingly, with physical threats which have escalated since lockdown started. It was severe - threatening to really hurt them. I did the right thing and reported them, I was (and am) genuinely worried about the child’s welfare.

They guessed it was me, and things have got progressively worse over the last three weeks. We have a communal area where parcels are left - mine have all been disappearing, obviously I cannot prove it was this neighbour who took my stuff but I’ve never had these issues before.

The neighbour has several times been standing directly outside my front door when I go to take DC out - I’m guessing they hear us getting our shoes on and then intentionally stand in our doorway to be intimidating. Again, I cannot prove this but it’s really unsettling.

They have also done a malicious, false report about us - with totally incorrect information, the accusations hold no weight but add to my feelings of not being particularly safe here anymore. I had a phone call from a social worker who said that malicious reports aren’t uncommon and she was very understanding, I was also able to give her more information about what I’ve heard my neighbours do/say involving their children.

I’ve put down a holding deposit for a new property and I’m really hoping my application is accepted and we can move there ASAP - but even so, I know it’ll be a slower process than usual because of coronavirus.

So my AIBU is - AIBU to go and stay with family members in the meantime? This neighbour is incredibly volatile, angry and aggressive and I feel like I’m at risk here at the moment, I don’t think they will let up at all, I think they are likely to get worse Sad

Tia Flowers

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ohtheholidays · 19/04/2020 18:30

Yes I'd go,get yourself and your DC to safety.

The rules for lockdown have included that you are allowed to leave your home to go to family/friends if you are unsafe in your own home or are in fear at your own home.

I'm sorry your going through this but thankyou for reporting your neighbours for what they'd been doing to they're children,your report could make a real difference to those poor children Flowers

MaidenMotherCrone · 19/04/2020 18:31

Go and stay with your family. You do not feel safe. It's that simple. Go as soon as you can.

brummiesue · 19/04/2020 18:32

I wouldn't hesitate! Go!

PleaseSirMyGoat · 19/04/2020 18:33

I would go. It's fine according to the rules, but even if it wasn't I'd still go in your situation

Windyatthebeach · 19/04/2020 18:33

Last rule of the guidelines op...
Get packing.

AIBU to stay with family this week?
mogloveseggs · 19/04/2020 18:34

Go. Definitely.
Those poor kids.

hesgotit · 19/04/2020 18:34

Go and don't think about it, just go.

Let us know you arrive safely.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 19/04/2020 18:34

Go, but make sure you don’t leave anything important paperwork, valuable or sentimental items in your home. I wouldn’t trust that scum not to break in.

Adviseplease1 · 19/04/2020 18:40

Thank you for the replies. @T0tallyFuckedUpFamily I’ve been really worried about them breaking in at night or when we go out, I’m finding it hard to sleep, and I’ve been leaving the TV on when we go out and trying to leave really quietly to try and deter them breaking in or worse. I just can’t live like this Sad

I know I did the right thing and hopefully the child will be helped now.

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Adviseplease1 · 19/04/2020 18:41

God knows what we will do if our application isn’t accepted for the new property. The thought fills me with complete dread.

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DontTouchTheMoustache · 19/04/2020 18:44

Good lord that's awful! Definitely go and take any valuables with you. Do you have contents insurance in case they do anything when you are gone?

Ilikewinter · 19/04/2020 18:49

Can you stay with your family until you can find a new home, incase this one does fall through?.
I would take everything of value/sentimental value and leave for good. Id also call your landlord or letting agency and tell them your concerns of potential break in or vandalism.
Stay safe.

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