Nice thing gone wrong

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I really don't know at this point! My 14 year old dd just made some lovely chocolate mouse in my best 4 cocktail🍸glasses. However, she put them precariously on the shelf in the fridge! I just went into kitchen, noticed door wasn't shut so opened it to see why. Said best glass fell out, dropping on newly bleached floor, smashing glass & chocolate into a mill pieces & cutting my foot. AIBU to shout at her?? Argh 😥🍫💝It was a nice thing to do but now have a cut foot dirty floor & loss of best glass! Argh

Don't shout, she was trying to do a nice thing

Don’t shout at her. It was an accident and she’ll realise she did something wrong with placing them as she did when you tell her what happened. She’ll be gutted too. It’s her hard work broken.

Just say how much you really appreciate what she tried to do.

Oh no! That is a real shame. But equally it was an accident so I don’t think you should shout at her, more show her the consequences of not being more careful when putting things in the fridge.
Sorry about your foot too, you haven’t got any glass shards in it I hope?

She probably feels like crap anyway. Don’t shout, surprise her with a big hug instead. You’ll feel better for it too.

She’s probably already feeling miserable in lockdown and now a nice thing has gone wrong. What do you think shouting will do other than make her feel worse?

Yeah definitely don't shout

My dd did something similar. I was so close to losing my shit, then I saw her sad little face. A hug, cuddle and kind words go a long way. She'll learn that you'll be there for her, glasses can be replaced however good and life will go on.

Ok thanks you're probably right!

Definitely don't shout. Accidents happen and if anything, a time like this should be a lesson to us not to sweat the small stuff.

It's an accident - it's just glass. Just gently explain how to safely do it in the future as getting glass in the feet is no fun. 😟

It was an accident . And you did it, really...

Calm down and give her a hug. It's just a glass. She may remember an angry reaction for a long time.

Have you already shouted at her? Cause this will only make you feel worse lol!

My daughter often did similar things as a teenager, she always had good intentions but seemed so accident prone.
We often look back and laugh at some of her mishaps now, and she always mentions how much it meant to her that I always saw the funny side and didn’t lose my temper ( though I often wanted to cry inside!)
I think it’s important for your daughter to know that you will always have her back, things can be replaced but a dent in her confidence/ self esteem may be permanent.

Oh cripes, if you’ve already shouted, sorry!
Just apologise and help her make some more 🙂

Tbh most of us learnt this lesson the hard way didn’t we?.

People are more important than things. She tried to do something nice. Show her what happened, I’m sure she’ll feel bad and make sure the glasses are better balanced next time. It was an accident, don’t stress. It’s only a glass at the end of the day.

No you don’t shout she’s done nothing wrong. She’s 14, a child and her intention was to make something nice.

It’s a bloody cocktail glass , surely being in the middle of a pandemic that’s killed thousands puts that in perspective?

Clean the glass up and forget about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don’t shout at her. I was a really accident prone teen, and I still remember my dad shouting at me for various mishaps. I can laugh about it now, but I always make sure to be super patient with my own kids about things like that as frustrating as it is!

Oh no! Hope your foot isn't too bad. Be kind and laugh it off. She was trying to be nice.

I have smashed many a thing and it's usually entirely my fault. If someone came up and shouted at me it would not spiritually enlighten me or help in any way whatsoever.