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To want my DP to stop being on phone when with DD?

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Whatthelockdown · 19/04/2020 11:55

My DP loves my DD lots, she our first child, but, i feel he doesn't really know how to interact with her, i feel he finds it a complete chore sometimes to be left with her as she just screams at him. Probably why lol.

He is often on hks phone playing mobile online games, ive come in a few times and she is crying or shouting at him and he's in the middle of a game which seems way more important than her.

We use reusable nappies ive tried explaining so many times how they go on, sat with him, showed him, given him pics of how to do it and he just doesnt care and then they leak.

He gets VERY frustrated with her when she starts getting tired and sad, cant settle her, makes it a massive deal and doesn't shout nut obviously gets worked up which we ALL feed on.

aibu to ask him to start doing a bit more?

How do i go about asking this in a polite way as whenever i suggest things it feels like he feels like im criticising him when all i want to do is help and make their bond stronger.

Im at my witts end and i love him dearly but at this point im getting a bit sick of it and it's going to start taking a toll on our relationship and in the end break it.

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MeridianB · 21/04/2020 18:09

The phone thing is totally unacceptable. Yes, He could lack confidence but watching TV or playing games on his phone when you are trying to help him is such a slap in the face. It’s really juvenile.

Have the two of you had a chat about what holding him back on this?

Whatthelockdown · 23/04/2020 21:55

@MeridianB That's what i thought, made me feel awful. I know he may be upset hearing me mentor him as such but, im not trying. I had anxiety abojt leaving him alone incase something went drastically wrong as he simply showed no idea!

We had a chat, seems he just thought she loved him more, it was hard having her cry and cry and then to see me and stop knocked his confidence and made him just give up. Think we have worked through most of it now though

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