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To ignore uplifting letter from nice friends?

64 replies

jrb123 · 18/04/2020 22:03

Has anyone else had this? I’ve had a couple of copies of this chain message so far, from very nice, kind friends. I don’t want to offend them, BUT:
“We've started an email collective for an uplifting exchange through Women Leaders. It's a one-time thing and we hope you will participate. We have included those we think would be willing to participate and make it meaningful! Please send a poem/quote/thought to the person whose name is in position 1 below (even if you don't know them/her/him). It should be a favorite text/verse/meditation that has affected you. Don't agonize over it. After you’ve sent the short poem/verse/quote/etc to the person in position #1, and only that person, copy this letter into a new email. In the text, move my name to position #1, and put your name in position #2. Only my name and your name should show in the copy of the new email. Then send the email to yourself and BCC 20 women you admire (blind copy). If you cannot do this in five days, let x know so it will be fair to those participating."
I’ve always hated chain letters and besides, the prospect of even thinking of an uplifting text / verse/ quote/ meditation / thought (most of mine are unprintable right now) to pass on to 20 women fills me with horror. Even worse would be the prospect of dozens of uplifting messages hitting my e-mail inbox - I have enough trouble managing to keep on top of the day to day stuff that pours in relentlessly. And I really don’t like what seems to me like moral blackmail. Or AIBU? P.S. I hate social media tags and challenges too – maybe that just makes me sad and grumpy.

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Snidpan · 18/04/2020 22:04

bugger 'em, I never respond to the 'let's see how far this gets!' messages

Flev · 18/04/2020 22:05

Chain letter - just delete it and don't bother thinking about it any more. Not worth your time or energy.

pictish · 18/04/2020 22:05

Just ignore it?

Glitters100 · 18/04/2020 22:06

All chain letters end with me Grin

I hate them and can’t be bothered to pass on the thought/message behind it.

Just ignore it.

Wanttolearnmore · 18/04/2020 22:07

I'd ignore , sounds like a lot of effort

KnobwithaK · 18/04/2020 22:07

Oh god, I couldn't be dealing with that.

You should probably let them know that you won't be doing it though. Maybe best to tell them now that it's not your sort of thing so they hastle you with this shit in the future.

Mopedfear · 18/04/2020 22:07

Just ignore. If you’re not into it then they will not have a problem with it

DrManhattan · 18/04/2020 22:08

I got that and deleted it straight off

EmeraldShamrock · 18/04/2020 22:09

Ignore. They really irritate me, if anyone was offended I'd think they are silly.

IrenetheQuaint · 18/04/2020 22:10

I've received this at least three times and it brought back bad memories of the hideous chain letters of my childhood in the late 1980s. Just ignore.

Daftodil · 18/04/2020 22:10

Ignore it. Concentrate on cultivating relationships with actual individuals that you want to communicate with as individuals rather than sending a generic "uplifting text" to 20 acquaintances.

NeverTwerkNaked · 18/04/2020 22:12

Yanbu. I hate stuff like that!

thepeopleversuswork · 18/04/2020 22:13

I can't stand things like this so would ignore just due to my constitution. I loathe the coercion and the sense of guilt if you don't participate. Even the Facebook "copy this onto your page" type things give me the heebs.

This is a fairly benign one as they go but I just can't go there.

Livelovebehappy · 18/04/2020 22:39

Too many people currently have too much time on their hands, which results in this kind of stuff.

Holothane · 18/04/2020 22:51

Delete I can’t be bothered

Carrie7469 · 18/04/2020 22:54

I had exactly the same one. Felt mildly guilty when I deleted it, but soon forgot about it.

rookiemere · 18/04/2020 22:55

I got a few of these at work. Straight to delete for me. Sorry too busy actually mumsnetting working for that rubbish.

MrsDrudge · 18/04/2020 22:59

I wouldn’t expect friends of mine to have the time, inclination or motivation to find an uplifting poem and copy to 20 more people. Especially when they are working from home/homeschooling/ worried. I’ve had the email twice and ignored it for this reason.

xsarax · 18/04/2020 23:12

I am where chain letters come to die Grin
Ignore it OP xx

TrickyKid · 18/04/2020 23:13

God no. I ignore anything like that.

Hunnybears · 18/04/2020 23:13

I delete an FB rubbish that says ‘copy and paste this to show your support to yada yada’

And when I get something im messenger saying ‘keep passing this on to show your honour, respect, caring for, support etc’ that also stop with me 😑.

Bigger waste of time and energy

SharonasCorona · 18/04/2020 23:15

I live that they’re putting the onus on you to tell them you’re not doing it by saying ‘If you cannot do this in five days, let x know so it will be fair to those participating."’

That alone would make me want to delete and not tell them a damn thing. Emotional blackmail.

CastleCrasher · 18/04/2020 23:16

I got the same one. Was surprised as it came to my work email from the work email of a very senior, usually very sensible colleague, but it got the same treatment as any chain letter - delete!

shwirurbsha · 18/04/2020 23:17

Surely it's just creating more work for an already overstretched postal service for something which is essentially pointless.

Justajot · 18/04/2020 23:17

My assumption is that the people who engage in stuff like this can't grasp the maths involved. If everyone who received it sent it on to 20 people then it would last 6 rounds before saturating the population of the UK.

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