Boyfriend sending the love heart 'Happy birthay' FB scene to ex-girlfriend

[Lazydayriver]

Am I being unreasonable?
My bf left laptop with his FB open & I saw he had sent birthday wishes to his ex for all to see with all the pink love hearts...I feel really childish getting upset as we have been together 3 years & they finished badly with her cheating on him. He also 'likes' some of her photos. I've confronted him before over this so he knows it upsets me so why fucking do it??? Am I being irrational? Sorry for such a banal post during an epidemic :(

Might be childish but that would piss me off too!!

Why is he putting love hearts??? Totally out of order. His ex is probably going to think he still likes her now too

Well I'm childish too OP because I would hate that.
It's a weird thing to do.

Is he doing it to wind you up. A discreet Happy Birthday and then a closed lid would have sufficed.

Why does he need to wish his ex who cheated on him happy birthday? He's got issues.

No, you’re not being childish. It’s a weird and shitty thing to do. If you weren’t on his FB would you have been able to see the post in his Ex GF’s page? Just wondering if he’s doing it for you to see and playing some sort of game, or doing it in the hope that you don’t see it. Either way it’s crap though tbh.

This is childish imo - are they on good terms? I’d confront him about it, but the love hearts probably don’t mean anything. What’s wrong with liking his ex’s pics? If she cheated on him, it’s extremely unlikely he would go back to her anyway

Liking photos wouldn't bother me but the love hearts would piss me off.

Goodness me. I wonder what his ex is thinking?! Probably, 'thank God we're not together. What an total arse. His poor girlfriend'!

Ugh this would annoy me too. My exH used to keep in touch with one of his exes and secretly talk etc, she even painted one of my bday presents as he left his email open once. It was the doing it in private/ hiding it that got to me. Also he left the computer on YouTube once watching one of her vids dancing hoops burlesque style. Prick. Can you tell I'm still bitter

Yes he's a twat, other people have put the same but surely he shouldn't, I dare not confront him as he will get angry

Yes he's a twat, other people have put the same but surely he shouldn't, I dare not confront him as he will get angry
bloody hell OP he really does sound awful if you can't even confront him about his awful behavior. Are you planing on staying with this twat? If not do you have an escape strategy.

I dare not confront him as he will get angry

This completely changes things. You feel that you can’t challenge him because you are scared of his temper. You should never feel like that in a relationship. It's unhealthy and sounds abusive.

I think it's weird that he's even wishing her a happy birthday considering they ended on such bad terms you'd think he just wouldn't have any contact with her at all! Yanbu