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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Aibu to ask about your childhood sweetheart?

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SweetDreaming · 18/04/2020 09:10

I know iabu to post here, but can we have a nice light-hearted thread to cheer some people up?

My childhood best friend/"boyfriend" from the age of 3, moved away at the age of 9. We reconnected on Facebook as teenagers, and now as adults catch up every couple of months since. Only over messenger, haven't seen him in person since we were 9.

He's still a sweetie so of course I like to day dream that we'll meet, fall deeply in love and live happily ever after as we're clearly destined to.

What about you? Did anyone actually marry their sweetheart? Or did they turn out to be a prick? Make me smile please

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DeathByBoredom · 18/04/2020 10:52

Married mine, happily for 20 years, then he cheated and I was broken hearted. Oh well.

FastnetLundyRockall · 18/04/2020 10:54

Started going out on a school trip to Paris and lots of very sweet hand holding etc. He is flamoyantly out loud and proud now and into beefy guys wearing leather, going by his fb page.

hardyloveit · 18/04/2020 14:53

My first serious bf from 15-20 but ended very badly (he cheated and lots of abuse) met my DH a few months later... been together/married since so 13 ish years now

PixiePowered · 18/04/2020 15:31

Met my first boyfriend when I was 14 and he was 17. He was a troubled soul but seemed to open up to me (read, lots and lots of lies).
Verbal, emotional and at times physical abuse. He cheated non-stop. Mild drug use.

I broke up with him and moved on.

I found out recently that a few years after me he was jailed for badly beating the mother of his child, once jailed he had his teeth knocked out because the rest of the inmates discovered what he was in for. After he was released he went back to drugs and stood trial for kidnapping another woman, as part of a group, because of drugs. He was found not-guilty as the younger people in the group pleaded guilty.
I've no idea where he is now - jail, free, off his face on a street bench somewhere, dead.

Misskittyfantastico85 · 18/04/2020 15:39

Possibly outing, but the love of my life age 11, went to a different secondary school. I never forgot about him and then he became semi famous for a bit (reality tv) and now his family run the local dance school where my Dd goes. I don't think he recognises or remembers me, DH knows and thinks 'my little crush' is hilarious

FlurkenSchnit · 18/04/2020 15:48

Went out with mine from 14-15, then off and on til I was 17.

He was in the year above me at school and was gorgeous - all the girls thought so leading to trouble for me!

He was my first everything and I was a total fool for that boy. He first broke my heart by cheating on me when I was 15 but then broke my heart good and proper when he died when I was 17.
I last saw him on the Saturday morning, he started to feel ill on the Sunday and died early Tuesday morning. Pneumonia. He had just turned 18. It was horrific

Everydayimhuffling · 18/04/2020 16:03

We went to school together, started "going out" (hanging out with our friends but with kissing) at 16 and 15 years later he's still here. He's my favourite person in the world, along with our DD. We've been through a lot of challenging times with long distance, family and pet deaths, miscarriage etc. and still managed to be a team, so I'm hoping we can get through this current incredibly difficult time (personal circumstances as well as the pandemic) together. I'm very grateful to have him, despite the annoyances - he does a very good job of coping with my extremely loveable traits too

nevergoingoutagain · 18/04/2020 16:09

My dh was my first proper boyfriend in year 10 for about 6 months. Stayed in same group of friends all through college and uni but he married someone else from our group (she and I hated each other!) divorces after a couple of years and then we got back together after not having seen each other for a couple of years. Been married 15 years with 3 kids!

I wouldn't call him my childhood sweetheart though just a boy that I really liked at school.

Treaclepie19 · 18/04/2020 16:24

Been with my husband since we were 16, I'm 30 next month,we have a 4 year old and I'm pregnnt 😁

Crunchymum · 18/04/2020 16:38

Was with mine from ages 15-18. Had lots of "firsts" with each other. Went our separate ways when we went to Uni.

Bumped into each other sporadically over the years but had a chance encounter in our late 20's, where we both ended up at the same party. We sat up all night talking and that was it. We were living together within a few weeks and are now several houses, 3 kids and 13 years down the line!

Rafflesway · 18/04/2020 16:50

Met mine when my mother and her family were living in another city and I was just visiting. We were both 14 but he was drop dead gorgeous, extremely popular and confident.

We stayed together for the next 6 years during which time I moved to live close to him. He made my life a misery! Despite us being engaged after the first couple of years he had so many different girls and treated me with total contempt but I think I held on as his family loved me and my own didn’t. ☹️

I eventually woke up one day and secretly arranged to move back to my hometown, (His older brother agreed to drive me.) I said goodbye as I was about to leave and his parting words were, “You won’t last 2 minutes without me.” That was Good Friday, 1976 and I have never seen him since.😂

He spent the next 2-3 years begging me to come back, sending me romantic, padded cards and gifts - he never had previously - and even got his mum to write to me saying how lost he was.

Needless to say I met my now DH 18 months later and we have been blissfully married for 40 years. Both of us had great careers, a wonderful dd and are all financially very secure. I occasionally stalk ex’s page on FB. He didn’t marry until well in his 30’s, has 2 dd’s, seems as miserable as sin - as well as constantly broke - and most definitely has not aged well. 🤔 Dodged a massive bullet comes to mind often!

TheoneandObi · 18/04/2020 17:19

Went out with mine from 17-20. I treated him appallingly. He's v successful in his field now and happily married, as am I.
But I still dream about him. That's normal, right?

happywifi99 · 18/04/2020 17:39

"dated" for about 6 months when we were 12, drifted apart with no hard feelings. Didn't really see eachother again for the rest of school, different colleges etc. 8 years on and we are going on a date after quarantine will be the first time we've seen eachother since school

SarahAndQuack · 18/04/2020 17:43

My teenage sweetheart and I had a weirdly intense friendship - I thought we should get together; he didn't, though I came across a print out of MSN conversations (remember them?) and we were both extremely flirty on paper. I have seen him occasionally in adult life. We're both gay, though. So it's quite likely that's why it never quite got off the ground.

Andromeida59 · 18/04/2020 18:59

I met mine when we were eleven years old. Our mothers went to school together. I was besotted with him for a long time. I'm attending his wedding to his husband-to-be next year. We've been close for years. We message each other all the time despite living at other ends of the country. Apart from DP (who is the second love of my life), my friend is my first.

vampirethriller · 18/04/2020 19:06

I was 14, he was 16 and beautiful. We were on and off till I was 17 and moved away. He died of sudden adult death syndrome in his 20s.
In my mind he's forever 16 and kissing me over the garden fence in the summer evenings.

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