To be concerned about my 1yr old's development?

[mrsmummy111]

I have just filled in the 11-13 month questionnaire for DS and it has struck me that there are a lot of things on the checklist that he can't yet do. He's 11.5 months.
He is a super speedy crawler and pulls himself up onto furniture, climbs the stairs etc. He can walk (wobbly) with me holding his hands and stands holding onto furniture for ages. He is brilliant at independent play and spends most of the day amusing himself (maybe this is where I'm going wrong as he so rarely needs my input?)

What I'm worried about is the fact he doesn't clap / wave or point or things in this remit. I already knew he was slow to do this but didn't think it was a huge concern? And he can't play peekaboo himself but laughs and smiles when I play with him. Along with a number of other things he should apparently be doing.

I guess I'm asking should I be concerned that there's a lot of things on the checklist that he can't yet do? I'm scared the HV is going to tell me that he's really behind and that it's a problem and now I'm really panicking....

Well, for a start he's at the lower age limit of 11-13 months. But also, children don't do things to a timetable. It sounds like he's doing plenty. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

You have a very physically active and independent child. Please don’t worry I think those are greater milestones than waving.

Babies develop at their own pace. Often when they are well developed in one area they may be less developed in another.

Please try not to worry.

But if you have concerns I am sure you Health visitor will be able to put your mind at rest.

OP- lovely, your DS sounds absolutely fine to me. I have 2 DCs. These checklists can be very anxiety causing- especially in current times- there is no "set" development for every child- they're not robots. The few things you cant put a tick against are not big concerns IMO especially for his still very young age. Please dont worry, enjoy him and this lovely stage- he sounds gorgeous x

My DS started walking about 13 months. He's only just pointing but has clapped for a while. They develop at different rates.

He’s at the lower age .

Mine just turned one too and I had the questionnaire a couple of weeks ago. I felt much the same as you.
However since then he is now suddenly walking, waving and clapping. Please don't worry!

My DD pointed and waved but didnt even crawl at 11 months let alone pull her self up on furniture and things. She is 3 now and absolutely fine.

Thank you so much everyone for your kind and reassuring messages, it's helped no end. Until I read that bloody questionnaire, I had absolutely no concerns. He's an incredibly content and happy baby but it's always going to be a worry that maybe your baby isn't developing the way they should. I will try to think rationally and remember every baby is different, he'll get there when he's ready.
The one and only real concern I have is his refusal to eat!! But that's completely unrelated and we're seeking help for that already

Thanks again everyone xx

My DS is almost 1 and sounds just like yours. And he is my 3rd child and seems just like the others from this perspective. The other two are happy health well developing school age kids just like their peers. Don't stress about questionnaires.

@usethedata Thank you! My mum said the same thing. She had 5 of us and couldn't tell you whether any of us ever clapped / waved / pointed or put toys into containers and we all turned out to be intelligent, functioning members of society (ish)

Relax relax, he sounds perfectly fine for his age!

All completely normal, they all develop at their own pace. I wouldn't worry too much about the actual appointment either (if there still is one?) ours didn't even read the questionnaire, just asked us if we had any questions/concerns, told me I'm allowed to carry on breastfeeding last 1 (err yea thanks for the permission ) and then weighed and (badly) measured him. We were out of there in about 4 minutes.