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To be worried about dating at 36 !

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Mummylovesbags · 17/04/2020 16:02

Firstly I realise there are bigger things happening in world especially UK (I am in Australia). I hope all in UK reading this are safe, happy and ok.

A bit of a trivial issue to distract you....

I’ve been seperated since last July and dipping my toe in tinder/online app dating waters ! I am a 35 year old single Mum with a 3.5 year old son.

I just realised that I am turning 36 in less than a month. This snuck up on me - it would seem, time goes fast in isolation.

I feel a little deflated about being on the single scene at this age. I was just listening to a podcast about fertility and how it rapidly declines at this age. I am happy and grateful to have one child but I don’t like that I might meet someone/true love of my life and not be able to have children with him/that not be an option.

I am currently carrying weight and trying to lose but it seems like men my age go for younger women. I have stretch marks, c section scar, saggy boobs and feel overwhelmed by the beauty expectations/ageing/things to do to date. It seems even average looking men want a banging bod and younger women.

This is all really negative and I know it’s self love but I also know that good men have high standards.

Looking for motivation, inspiration, feel good replies as stuck in a (covid) dating rut.

Also seems like my options are limited as a single mum. As much as I want to self love can’t help but feel like I’m on the shelf.

I’ve never had a true romantic love, my marriage wasn’t great and I would like to experience being really adored by someone.

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FourEyesGood · 17/04/2020 16:06

YANBU to want a relationship.
YABU to use the phrase ‘banging bod’.
YABU to want to be ‘adored’. Aim for a mutually respectful relationship rather than to be put on a pedestal.

There are many decent men out there who want a positive relationship with a decent woman. There are also many men out there who are shallow (just as there are many shallow women). You may have to wade through a few of the latter before you find the former. Good luck.

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