to question my son's nursery

[law3]

My ds's first day at nursery yesterday, when we arrived they was a little boy standing alone outstide of the nursery building, next to the main gate, sobbing for his mum.

I took him back into the nursery and told the staff where i had found him, they offered no explaination, so i asked whether the kids were allowed to go out there and questioned the security etc, etc, etc.

Anyhow when i picked my son up from nursery the teacher asked me to stay behind for a 'word' apparently my ds had drawn on a table and a chair, the teacher had already had a word with him about it. And she asked me to have a word with him as well.

I didnt see the point of having a word with him 4 hours after he had done it, as the nursery had already had a word at the time.

Are they just nit picking because i questioned them, tit for tat? Or am i being over sensitive????

they are probably just making u aware they had words.Not so sure about the security though.i would not have been happy findingmy child at gate.

i wouldn't put that down as a very promising start. The little boy should not have been outside the building on his own crying for his mummy; unless ALL the children were crying at the same time, he should clearly have been prioritised and someone sent to bring him in.

And yes, drawing on a table and chair - dealt with at the time, that's enough. Absolutely no point whatsoever in you talking to him aswell; it's for the nursery to deal with him when he's there; home is seperate. I think it's really unhealthy to make you bring stuff home like that; he should be allowed to forget nursery and relax.

I think you're right to find these things odd.

Thanks Honoria,

Apparently the little boy had climbed over the outdoor play area fence (a wooden fence about 4 foot high on the sides of the building) i looked at it again today, and the fence also has a vertical piece of wood going across, about half way up, easy for kids to climb on. Apparently the main gate is padlocked after parents have left.

I dunno alarm bells are ringing for a number of reasons, if my son gets upset will he just be left to cry. He loves to climb. Luckily i found the little boy, but i could have been anyone.

He loves going to nursery so far and my dh is telling me to relax and see how things go. Trust me to be up in arms on the first day!!!!!!!

That would make me hear warning bells. I would be very tempted to ask them if they have told the other mother her child had escaped and act accordingly.
You don't repeat a discipline hours later. They should be bale to handle it.

Yeah - just relax. I think some kids will get round the security in all the nurseries. there is a double bolted gate and a buzz entry door at mine but there was a lost child standing outside playing by himself when i went the other day. When i went in the mum was looking frantically for him - it turns out he just walked out when the other parents were opening the gates and they just let him through.

apparently they did tell the parents about escaped boy. I just keep thinking if he could do it, then so could my ds.

I dont want to cause a stir he has only been there 2 days, i dont think my son would climb the fence, as its far more interesting in the nursery, but im a worrier