Lack of tact - or am i just grumpy?

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6 friends, whats app group

2 key workers - working flat out, high risk

3 people who are self employed and or / partners are - all struggling financially

6th person "ooooh its amazing news today our company has furloughed us all for 3 months on full pay i'm just so happy i cant believe it - i can just sit at home and watch netflix and my wages are paid"

i know everyone will probably say be kind, and be happy for the individual, but why oh why do some people have just no tact? heart is breaking for so many people who are not just struggling with isolation/ and or high risk jobs but worried about keeping roof over their heads - why would you blatantly show off like this?

Definitely no tact. By pure luck, my husband took a different route with his career last year, which means for this year (and this year alone) he's being paid excessively for basically doing nothing during this lockdown. This will stop in June though, so much of that is going into savings whilst we hope he finds something by summer/autumn. Most people I know are self employed and really bloody struggling. I would be a massive twat to say 'I'm thrilled that MrRage is home, we can eat takeaway and watch Prime without a care in the world!'. I'd have replied somewhat sarcastically to reading that on WhatsApp.

Definitely tactless , I'd have to call her out on it.
I'm frontline NHS , this would piss me off immensely. Maybe mention that we'll all end up paying for their nice little break when taxes go up ( including us who have worked through the whole thing).

I'd say something, doesn't have to be rude could just be "Aye don't rub in Janice" and if she carries on maybe speak to her off the group!

I would also have to say something regards her stupid text.

The NHS staff are at breaking point, jobs are/will be lost left, right and centre, a massive amounts of homes will be reprocessed due to the situation we have found ourselves in and this pathetic person makes a small minded comment of being able to watch netflix whilst on full pay. Along with taxes being hiked up to the hilt to pay back what the government has offered.

She seriously needs a reality check stupid pathetic fool

"Great, now you have time to volunteer on some local groups to help with food delivery/prescription pick ups/assisting the elderly who are really struggling right now - here are details of the local volunteering. Shall I pass them your details?"

Agree, something like ‘lucky you, but don’t rub it in’

You are allowed to be happy for someone even though you are going through a tough time yourselves.
She’s just sharing her latest news with you, albeit a bit tactlessly.

Well, if you are all friends what should she do? Not mention it?

It is a bit tactless and she absolutely could have been a bit less gushy about it, but I can't blame her for being happy. I agree that you could say something like, "okay, no need to rub our noses in it love" if you want to make the point that endless pics of her sunbathing with a cocktail in hand are not going to go down well.

Also, how supportive has she been to the others who are struggling?

She's a twat (I say that as an NHS nurse) 😡

Call them out and let us know their reply. Go, go, go!

she maybe thought it was ok to say on a group chat with her friends without being so harshly judged? Its not her fault she's been furloughed while others are working, and best to have a positive attitude, im still working, but very jealous of my friends who are off on full pay, i don't have a go at them about it though.

If my friend said that I would be happy for her. Her happiness doesn't take anything from you. If she ends up going on and on or boasting or gloating then sure, say something, but if she's just sharing happy news with friends then I don't understand the problem.

If my friend said that I would be happy for her. Her happiness doesn't take anything from you. If she ends up going on and on or boasting or gloating then sure, say something, but if she's just sharing happy news with friends then I don't understand the problem.

She's already 'gloating'. Only someone without two braincells to rub together would have expressed herself that dimwit way to a group where the other five members are key workers endangering themselves or in significant financial difficulty.

I mean, I'm actually having a lovely time at the moment compared to many people I know, but I don't go around shrieking on WhatsApp about how nice it is being on the beach in the sun every day to friends who are NHS key workers, or abruptly without an income.

@Cnoc I missed the rule that you're not allowed to be happier than your friends

I'm happy that my friends would be genuinely happy for me if I had good news, even if they were finding things difficult themselves - as I would be for them.

It's another matter if she goes on and on about it of course.

Group of friends surely?

So if she repeats over and over - then tactless

But a message updating and expressing happiness... if you’re a friend you’d be happy she’s happy irrespective of your own situation

The fact you think she’s “blatantly showing off” would indicate you generally don’t have a very high regard for her!

So do I not tell my friend with a special needs child that my child got into a top university?
Do I not tell my hard up friend I have a holiday booked?
Do I not tell my divorced friend that DH bought me flowers just because?
Yes if she keep going on say something, but she is supposed to be your friend. Just be thankful that not everyone you know is having a shit time.