To be pissed off that I get no support from anyone?

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Despite all the talk lately about mental health being important and it's important to talk I literally have no one who gives a shit about my mental health and the fact that I'm feeling so down.

DH doesn't give a shit. I'm just expected to function as normal 365 days a year and never get ill and if I ever try to talk about feeling down he just turns the conversation round to being about him.

Friends just want to talk about themselves. If I ever mention anything about me in texts or in person they change the subject. I've recently stopped contacting some so called friends who only talk about themselves and unsurprisingly haven't heard from them at all!

So fed up

You should challenge people when they turn it around to be about them. They might just think it’s a let’s both let off steam here type deal unless it’s clear you are reaching out for help.

What happens when you don't function to rule? What happens when you don't do something expected of you or just leave the house because you feel like it?

Why marry or be friends with someone that doesn’t give a shit? What do you get from them?

That's really crappy and sorry you're feeling so down OP. I think in the current crisis, because everyone's in lockdown, sometimes people don't realise that some are finding it harder than others. I know what you mean - if you tentatively say you're not feeling good, the other person will steamroller in saying yes isn't it awful and look how bad I have it. Which may be true but they shouldn't be riding roughshod over your feelings and should take time to listen to you too. But some people are just selfish and a lot of folk only think of themselves. I do think that one of the reasons the CV pandemic is so horrible is because if this happened just to you, the having to stay indoors and be isolated, the health fears, the loss of money, loss of job - everyone would be rallying around with support, sympathy and help. But because we're ALL going through it in one way or another, there's none of that - we're just expected to get on with it. But it's very hard and doesn't make the pain any easier.. it makes it worse in fact. Can you shout a bit louder and tell your DH to shut up and listen to you for a change? Maybe he's just in the habit of thinking you're ok and needs to be jolted out of it xx