Separated parents at this time

[FloydWasACat]

I know this has been posted about before but I can't find anything recent.
For those of you who are separated from their child's parent (Dad in my case for one of my kids) are you still letting them stay at weekends at the other parent's house?
I have kept my son with me as ex is a key-worker and still working I went with the decision that the risk wasn't worth the visit. However, my ds has been asking when he can see his Dad and after the latest announcement of this going on for another three weeks at least I don't know what to do for the best.
I genuinely would welcome opinions and experiences about this as there has been no update from the Gov about things changing with regards to children moving between households.

Ex and I are on good terms and he understands why I have said no contact at the mo, but I am genuinely winging it.

TIA for any insight advice anyone can offer

I am a key worker. I am a parent first and I wouldn't except being kept away from my children because of my job. For a week or 2 yes but not longer. I need them. They need me. I take all the recommended infection control advice. But it's not right to separate a parent and child because he is a key worker imo. I do understand your concerns.

My perfectly fit and healthy furloughed ex has said he's not having our children until the pandemic has ended as he's 'following government advice to stay home'.

What he is really saying is 'I cant be arsed and certainly won't up my game while you carry on as a patient facing nurse working extra shifts covering for sick colleagues and continue to do it all. Plus our children are also in school 3 days a week and I don't give a shit about any increased risk to them as long as I have a nice tax payer funded holiday'. Oh and he's stopped paying maintenance as well and the CMS are taking 12 weeks to investigate by which time he likely will have been made redundant.

I'd let your son go, he wants to see his dad and his dad wants to see him. Sensible precautions while he's at the funeral and fastidious hand washing will reduce any risk significantly.

Apologies re funeral comment - I may have mixed threads up? I'm tired!

That did make me chuckle fleabag hope you got a decent nights sleep

Thanks @FloydWasACat - 10 shifts in 7 days and by brain is addled 😂

No comtact here.

Dad is a key worker and they don't like going anyway

My ex dropped the DCs Easter Eggs off last week and told them (from the end of the path) "I would have you over but we aren't allowed at the moment as you know"
TBH I'm not surprised as he uses any tiny excuse not to see them

I'd say if DS wants to see his dad then let him.

We're still keeping up the normal contact arrangements. The thought of not seeing the children for weeks would kill me, so I couldn't in all honesty do that to ex either.
I'm a key worker but not in a patient facing role so not high risk.

Spoke to DS's Dad last night and we both decided to keep him here for the foreseeable and they can Skype, speak on the phone etc. Like I said, we get on well (now) so it was an amicable agreement. DS seems ok with it too, phew