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Easter egg scenario

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Thegreatdebate · 16/04/2020 10:45

Ok I just need a reality check really and fully expect to get told I’m bu. I know there is more important things going on in the world right now.

This has been playing on my mind for the last few days, bearing in mind me and my boyfriend are living separately for lockdown and our relationship has had a few struggles over the last few months.

I knew that the uk would go into lockdown so before it did I got prepared and bought Easter eggs for the family and birthday presents for those with upcoming birthdays. Last week I walked to my boyfriends house to drop off his Easter egg on my daily walk. Following social distancing and leaving on doorstep. It’s a fairly long walk and a nice warm day but the egg was fine and no where near too hot. On receiving egg boyfriend was most ungrateful and showed no appreciation to the thought/effort I’d gone to. All he could do was moan that it was too hot outside and the egg would be melted. It wasn’t melted but continued to say this. Not even a thank you.

Was a little pissed off at this. He hadn’t got me anything which I already knew and was fine with but thought he might show a little appreciation. Later on that night he messaged and back tracked a little saying he just didn’t know how/when he could have got one to me. This is a rubbish excuse as he has already dropped stuff off at my house over the course of the lockdown and our houses are just a walk away. He even offered to do some shopping for my vulnerable family member the day before all this so he is quite capable of getting to the shops and delivering to my side of the village.

Then Easter Sunday rolls around and not even a happy Easter message. He knows I am a little religious and Easter is an event I like to make the most of just like Christmas etc. It’s little things That mean a lot to me and he didn’t bother.

Should I be pissed off or do I just need to get over it. We’re going through a tough time together at the minute and this just shows he is not putting any thought or effort into our relationship. This is just another small thing on top of lots of other problems.

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Ughmaybenot · 16/04/2020 10:49

So your relationship is a bit shit anyway, before all this lockdown malarkey? If so, and he’s just following a pattern of you making the effort and him taking you for granted, I’d probably chuck him. I’m making an assumption this isn’t a particularly long term relationship, and I apologise if I’m wrong but this stands either way, and it just sounds like he’s making you feel unappreciated and miserable. Is that really what you want?

squeekums · 16/04/2020 10:50

I'd be annoyed
Its not that he didn't or couldnt get you anything but his reaction to you getting him something, ungrateful and rude, just say thanks, not hard

STAYTHEFUCKHOME · 16/04/2020 10:52

So what does being a little religious entail? Does it obviously show that you desire to be wished a “happy easter”?!

Mistystar99 · 16/04/2020 11:08

Chuck him.
And stop littering melted eggs.

LaPoesieEstDansLaRue · 16/04/2020 11:11

Would never occur to me to get an Easter egg for an adult. I always think of them of being for kids.

absea · 16/04/2020 11:19

He's not that into you

staceyflack · 16/04/2020 11:57

Dump him. You're not suited.

moita · 16/04/2020 12:00

I think that was a nice thought. He sounds rude.

ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 16/04/2020 12:01

Yep, dump him, you'll never make a go of it together, so stop wasting your time.

Jammydodger1981 · 16/04/2020 12:05

@LaPoesieEstDansLaRue what utter bollocks, of course you can get Easter eggs for adults! No way am I wasting expensive eggs on a child, they’re clearly all for me!

Sorry if I missed it OP but how long have you been together? Over a year so he knows it’s important to you? What happened last year?

He could have ordered one to be delivered direct to you from Amazon, Thornton’s or Hotel Chocolat if he couldn’t find one in the shops!

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 16/04/2020 12:06

Would never occur to me to get an Easter egg for an adult. I always think of them of being for kids.

We grown ups like chocolate too, you know! That's why "adult" eggs are produced. I love a Green & Blacks or Lindt egg. Mmmm.

redbigbananafeet · 16/04/2020 12:12

What does 'at little bit religious' look like?

Shoxfordian · 16/04/2020 12:23

He's inconsiderate
Continue self isolating from him indefinitely

Thegreatdebate · 16/04/2020 14:57

Yes been together over a year so he knew what we were like last Easter. Last Easter we got each other eggs and he was quite thoughtful with his actually. We spent the long weekend together last year but obviously can’t right now.

I suppose adults might not do eggs as much but I just think it’s a nice idea, did him an advent calendar too. I like just little things like that to bright the days.

Religious in that I do go to church regularly but not every week. Not a strict Christian but have been brought up with a faith.

Thanks for all the responses though, as you can tell the relationship isn’t the best at the min and I wasn’t sure if that was clouding my judgement.
He thinks I over think everything and make little incidents like this into a big deal. I am quite sensitive and emotional, whereas he brushes everything off and doesn’t let it bother him.

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HedgehogHotel · 16/04/2020 15:06

It sounds like you're projecting your needs onto him. Perhaps your not compatible...

BBBear · 16/04/2020 15:18

He sounds like hard work. All he had to do was say thank you for the egg.

PsychoWiener · 16/04/2020 15:26

Yeah I wouldn't be happy with him at all! It's the effort and thought that counts more than anything, especially at the moment so it would've been nice for him to show that he's thinking of you. You can't spend it together so this would've been a way for you both to still mark the occasion as a couple. His ungratefulness is awful, so disrespectful. I'd be dumping him. Sorry OP.

Iamthewombat · 16/04/2020 15:26

It’s the little things that make a relationship good. He could have got you an Easter egg, he didn’t. Move on. Sorry you had to go through this.

Thegreatdebate · 16/04/2020 19:40

Thanks for all the responses, I really appreciate the support of Mumsnet at the minute!

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Fairyliz · 16/04/2020 19:43

Bin him off he’s not worth your time and effort.

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