WFH and coping with other people in the house

[MadameBee]

My husband is in the military. He has been home for two weeks and is due to go back to work this weekend.

I am WFH 9-5.

He’s lying in until midday then went and did our weekly shop then went and lounged around in bed all afternoon, I am cooking dinner every evening.

This morning he’s wanting me to bring him a cup of coffee in bed as I am up anyway and I said actually as I am working all bloody day and you are going to probably sleep till 12 again it might be nice if you got me a coffee.

We have fallen out.

ARGH - I miss going to work 😭😭

Selfish twat..

I feel your pain OP. My husband is not working (self employed so not furloughed either) and is being incredibly lazy. He lays in and then spends most of his day lying on the sofa on his iPad or watching TV. I do ask him if he could help a bit more with housework but he does barely anything. I'm working 9-5:30 and have shut myself away in one of the bedrooms but he just waltzes in when he feels like it and starts talking, whether I'm on a conference call or not. Can't wait for him to go back to work.

In two weeks I think he has made me lunch once.

I am wfh in the spare bedroom and the door is closed unless my DP brings me a coffee. Would he expect you to come home from work to look after his needs?

Whenever we fall out he says “fine I’ll go back to work” (meaning to his cabin) meaning we never resolve anything.

I actually want to kill him right now.

Different but equally annoying situation here. DH is furloughed and due to the nature of his industry, his job could be seriously under threat depending how long this goes on. I think, because he is bored, anxious and stressed about his own work, he is constantly listening in to my meetings and discussions and chipping in with "helpful" suggestions, or wants to know more about a particular situation. He's never been a mansplainer before and I'm trying to be charitable and understanding about the stress he is under but it's making me feel so self-conscious and aware of everything I am discussing at work (my work is around 80% boardroom meetings, which are all now online). Worse is when I am in a 1:1 with my boss, who frequently enquiries about DH and his job, in a really nice way, but he gets upset about others knowing his personal business. We have no dedicated office space at home and everything is open-plan so there's really no privacy. I've tried wearing headphones but that is more frustrating as he can only hear my side of the conversation so tries to work out the rest...

He does do the housework though, and makes my lunch and brings me endless cups of tea while I am working so it's not all bad.

To be fair to him, he probably is wanting to relax for the fortnight he's got off before being shouted at and possible shot at.

It's frustrating
You could make him a drink at start of day - that way he's awake- then say to him he needs to get up and do jobs around house, cook lunch and tea and cleans as you are working.

I have two older teens in amongst my DC at home and they are incredibly lazy - i am working from home, cooking dinner and asking them why I am washing & clearing up after them and what have they done all day (played Xbox computer and slept!)

I get ridiculously excited when they do some exercise in the garden or go for a walk!

It

He's being lazy. You don't mention DC, so presumably he's got plenty of time to relax after cooking and cleaning.

Christ @TakeYourCanvasBag that would drive me up a wall!

Thankfully mine has been redeployed - he was admin for a health trust but is now working in a NHS warehouse, but I made sure to give him a list of jobs that needed doing while I WFH the few days he was here.

It's not long until the weekend OP, hope you can make it til then!

I am very resentful of mine!

We are both WFH, and I have long suspected, his job is 'easy' compared to mine. He is established in his career, earns double what I do. He tends to start his working day around 10am....has many breaks, and an hour for lunch, finishes about 5pm. He has even said he is possibly only doing 4/5hrs of work each day.

I am getting up early and starting at 8:30 (work laptop is currently updating something, hence I am on here!) I will then work through till about 4:30 pm.

We have 2 teens at home also, and I am cooking dinner as soon as I finish work, and doing housework. Dp just doesn't seem to realise as he doesn't have a commute atm, he could be organising his day better.

He is currently sitting in the garden with a coffee....I assume he will start working soon.

We only have 1 18 yr old here.

I was on the phone to a colleague and he closed the door and turned the hoover on on the other side of the door, I opened it and signalled at him to stop and he said “well you wanted the floor doing”