WIBU to visit sibling?

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Sibling is in mid 20s. Lives with partner. Both have Asperger's. Sibling suffers with major depression. Partner not able to help my sibling who is stating suicidal thoughts and loneliness due to lockdown. Sibling has very few friends. No access to usual counselling sessions. Not seeing family and I am extremely worried. WIBU to visit my sibling every so often to check in? Even if just to talk through the window?

Isn't that allowed in the rules. Something about vulnerable people

I think this would come under the umbrella of essential care so no you wouldn’t be unreasonable to visit and chat at a distance/through windows.
I hope they are both ok.

I'd say that was allowable on medical grounds.

Agree this is allowed .

@samcro I have no idea. Sibling states not a vulnerable person and is worried about judgement from neighbours which is a major factor in preexisting anxiety.

It would come under caring for someone vulnerable so yes is allowed

If you were both just bored then no, but she’s suicidal and vulnerable so it’s very much essential care.

I'm really worried about both of them. The impact of this lockdown is huge on them both.

I wish we had space here for them but we just don't have the rooms.

Yes, visit her and help her find a way to access counselling, there must be some way of doing it online.

Sometimes you have to use your judgement and do what you think is best. I think on the scale of things visiting your sibling seems a very sensible idea right now. Good luck.

Yes visit- they are vulnerable, can their regular counsellor do by phone? (if they have one) - this must be a common ask.
If they are worried about the neighbour then park away from the house , ask your sibling to leave the door unlocked so you don't need to stand on the doorstep and wait. Really it's none of the neighbours business but I think logic wont help. Any neighbour worth their salt would understand, those who don't aren't worth the bother. Perhaps Autism UK might have some useful help - there is a helpline running at the moment.

www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/main.aspx

YANBU
Your sibling is a vulnerable person despite what they are saying to the contrary.

If she’s worried about the neighbours could you park up round the corner (assuming you need to drive) and then walk to the house so it looks like part of your exercise?
Or take a bag of groceries or similar so looks like a food drop off?
Just thinking of ways to make it ok for her, in your shoes I’d go.

Definitely not BU. This is essential care. I would visit if I was you.

Go. People are having carers come in if they need it, not much difference.

If no spare room, what about an inflatable bed? Might be a pain to put up and down but they would have support 24/7.

I have visited my adult ds.
He has contemplated suicide twice since last summer.
Once attempted 3 years ago..
Keeping in contact is essential for him ime.
Your sibling needs you op.
Imo.

Yes, you can visit and maintain social distance still. Outside window, from garden etc.