Easter gifts

[longdistanceclara2]

NC for this and more of a WWYD. Some details changed.

I received a parcel last week addressed to my two boys from their estranged dad's partner. I've opened it and there's three items. Two packets of sweets and one toy. The toy isn't one they could share and is something the younger lad is into and the older one wouldn't like. The partner would definitely know this as it would be classed as babyish. They don't know about the parcel and giving it to them would upset them, particularly the older lad who has been left out. The partner is emotionally abusive especially to my older ds and this is part of the reason they are not having contact. I wish I'd refused the parcel now but it was left on the steps by the post lady due to coronavirus.

WWYD?

Give them a packet of sweets each and stick the toy in your present cupboard?

Hide the toy and pass it on to a charity shop in the future. Share the sweets out but without commenting on where they come from? Or eat them yourself if you like them.

Just give them each the packet of sweets and tell them who they are from. Don't give the toy to your little one as they didn't bother buying for your older child.

Share the sweets out but without commenting on where they come from?
Why would you do that?

Agree with Ragwort, you don't mention the age of the boys but it sounds like telling them any details will be upsetting so don't.

You owe your ex nothing and I can't see any positives to telling them

Agree with PPs. Give them the sweets and not the toy. Or, if you have a small something in a cupboard, give your older DS a toy as well. I usually have a stash of toys under the bed as I build up to Christmas.

I don't have anything I can give the older one but will put the sweets in the sweet jar and not say anything. It's seems a cruel thing to do to ds1 to leave him out.