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IAmLegendaryExtra · 14/04/2020 09:01

So I registered on a dating site about three weeks before the lockdown for the first time ever. I’m early 30s single mum and haven’t dated properly since I got separated.

Anyway, I noticed I got so many interactions within the first one hour. Several views and likes and coming from a mostly sexless marriage of 8+ years this was very flattering.

One man stood out though. A 37 yo, He told me he didn’t like long chats and would really appreciate if we met in person. Due to the issue with Covid I agreed but insisted on being outdoors.

1st date he came with a huge bouquet of flowers and parked somewhere close and we went on a 3 hour walk. We talked about everything. But I didn’t want to take him seriously.

He proposed another date, this time he packed a delicious picnic with Hungarian wine etc. And found a beautiful spot for us to walk and just talk.

I don’t want to bore you but he has called me every day and planned lots of cool lockdown dates and even bought Easter gifts for my DD and a pack of vitamins for DM after I mentioned she was lonely/sad during the lockdown and delivered Hungarian home made meals he prepared for us. We have never kissed btw.

I’m just confused because he seems so confident and self assured that we are in a relationship. I have read up that this might be a Hungarian thing where relationships move very fast.

Tbf I have stopped logging into the dating app and turned off notifications. But I’m wondering is it just too early? If I still chat with others would it be unfair? He seems so nice. He seems a keeper but too early to say I suppose.

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edwinbear · 14/04/2020 09:53

I had a relationship with a Hungarian for a while, culturally, they 'court' in quite an old fashioned way. He said Hungarian women expected to be treated like princesses (his words not my judgement at all), and so this would be expected by many. They can be very charming, I would enjoy it for now, but do tell him if you're finding it a bit OTT, it won't cause offence.

Northernwarrior · 14/04/2020 09:58

If it’s making you feel odd say it’s a bit to ott.

If you like him, enjoy but keep your ‘love bombing’ wits about you.

Or if you don’t like him end it.

You are in control.

Savoretti · 14/04/2020 10:01

Sounds way OTT to me. Be careful. I know you probably enjoy the attention after coming out from a sexless marriage but it sounds like love bombing to me.
You don’t know the guy, have not even kissed and yet he is treating you like a partner. Buying things for your family too sounds like far too much to me, it’s sounding massive alarm bells but I am a very reserved person I admit.
I would tread very carefully, time will tell whether he is genuine or not, but I would still chat to other if I were you.
I don’t think you should have been meeting up at all because of C-19 either....

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