To not like house parties on that house party app

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Or cocktails on Zoom or anything similar. I find it a little bit, actually, really awkward. I missed a very good friend's birthday party recently and feel quite guilty but I just couldn't face doing the whole party on a lap top thing. Is this just me? I'm fine with meetings , just not social things.

No YANBU. I hate it. I just sit there and never say anything.

You're not unreasonable to not like something, you know.

Depends on how many are joining in.
3/4 is a good number for drinks.
A few more if it’s a quiz or game is fine.
I can’t see how it would work with any more tbh.

I find them frustrating. More than four people and any conversation becomes impossible and it's just a couple of people talking and everyone else listening, or people saying random things. I can't work out if I find them better than nothing, or worse because I miss my friends even more. Quite like it with just 2 or 3 others though.

Although...I do quite like seeing what's behind some people

It's the nearest thing to a social life. I'm always in them of various charges and still can't get used to it. It's the lack of eye contact and atmosphere that I miss.

DH hates it, I quite like it. I would say if this goes on a while longer you should try and force yourself to have occasional catch ups for the sake of your friendships. Doesn't have to be all evening though.

Agree that 3-4 people is quite fun. Anything more sounds a bit nightmarish (haven’t tried it, fortunately!)

You're not unreasonable to not like something, you know

This, what else is there to say?

We do a family one often, it's so frustrating, the one set of people constantly saying they can't hear, coughing, talking between themselves, so you cant hear anyone else over them. It's sad because I miss alot of my family but i cant bare to video chat with everyone. I prefer going places with people so the social interaction isn't the main part.

It's not as good as going round to friends' houses, but we're rather enjoying our zoom-based social life. Getting together with three other couples online for some drinks and a chat is something we're looking forward to, and we're spending more time with old friends than we have in ages due to being scattered around the country and/or needing babysitters.

We're missing seeing family (especially grandparents) and local friends, but our social life with our oldest and closest friends hasn't been as good since we were all at uni!

I've found them ok with 2/3 people but any more than that and it can be difficult. Like others have said, people talking over each other. There's always someone with a bad signal who keeps asking for things to be repeated. Or someone's kids wanting to say hello. Or someone wanting everyone to say hello to their kids. We spend a good few minutes on our last one all waving and cooing like maniacs at a toddler who just silently eyed us all with deep suspicion. 😂

I'll still do them but for ten minutes only and then I'm out of there!