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AIBU?

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Can someone advise?

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Whitegrapeandblackberry · 13/04/2020 10:21

Me and ex have been over for a while, still live in the same house, I'm wondering what my best option is, I need to claim benefits as I can't expect him to keep me financially anymore, obviously I would pay for half bills etc, but I'm wondering whether it's best to wait until the house sells I would get between 5-10 grand from the house sale, or whether to save hard for a deposit to rent somewhere, or if I took my name off the mortgage would I be able to go on the council house list or would it be seen as making my self homeless ( not technically homeless but this wouldn't be my home ) it's always seemed like this home anyway!! I'm not sure which way to do it, but I want to move on with my life now, I've taken a few years of problems with ex mil and he is now saying is I can't cope with that then there is no hope for us, also he isn't allowing another baby which I feel is really unfair that my DD won't have siblings, my body clock is running out and I don't have time to wait around for his mum to get her head out of her arse and treat me with respect so he will " allow" another baby!! Tia

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Whitegrapeandblackberry · 13/04/2020 10:25

Should also say we were together 10 years and no hint of marriage, I was very below him, I had to ask for money etc

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crispysausagerolls · 13/04/2020 10:35

also he isn't allowing another baby which I feel is really unfair that my DD won't have siblings

Wtf? What do you mean? You want another baby with him? He’s your ex...

Whitegrapeandblackberry · 13/04/2020 10:46

Yes i wanted to work things out, but because he won't tell his mum to act like a normal human being I can't take the crap she gives me!!

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Whitegrapeandblackberry · 13/04/2020 14:01

Hopeful bump

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Sparklesocks · 13/04/2020 14:09

You definitely shouldn’t have an other child with someone you’re no longer in a relationship with solely to give your existing child a sibling. And if he really loved and wanted a kid with you his MIL wouldn’t matter. This sounds really toxic and I think your best option is getting out of there as soon as lockdown is over.

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