Profile photos

[CoughKeepsOnComing]

Just curious -

My mil has her profile photo on WhatsApp and other social media, showing a picture of her grandchildren on her daughter's side (no pictures of my children)

My sil (mil's daughter) has her profile photo set as her and her daughter (no pics of her with son).

Is this weird and a bit mean? Or would you do it?

I'd never have a profile pic of me with only one of my children. How would I pick? I love them both the same and what message would it send to the one left out?

I wonder how dh feels whenever he gets a message from mil, and her favoured grandchildren flash up on screen ...

I don’t think it means you have a favourite, I think it means you like the photo. A photo that isn’t permanent and can be changed in 5 seconds. You are reading too much into it

But their photos haven't been changed in 5 seconds...mil's has been there a year.

It was probably the photo she liked the most, that was the 'nearest' in her photo roll when she signed up.

It wouldn't cross my mind to think about these terms like favoured/favourite when it comes to something like this. I don't think a photo on a Whatsapp profile indicates this at all. My DH has a photo of one of my children as his profile picture. I do not think he loves ds2 the most in our family. I just think he loves the photo.

Thanks both!! Just me then!! (I'm a bit sensitive to ensuring absolutely no hibt if any favouritism at all for my kids, because there were definitely favourites in my family growing up! So I'm probably a bit sensitive to this!)

Couldn't bring myself to be worried about this. My mum has a photo of her and my brother on her WhatsApp. It's a lovely photo. My friend has a photo of her and her daughter but not her son. It's just a photo.

You don't see your own photo on WhatsApp unless you go looking for it though.

Most of my contacts probably haven't ever changed their pic since they first sat it up.

You're looking a bit too hard for offence I think.

My photo is me and my DH. Not my child. Not my parents or my siblings or my best friends or our dog.

Does this mean I love them less?

I had wondered the same after we video called my mum on WhatsApp and her profile picture is of her other 2 grandchildren (mum not in the picture). My daughter said where am I?