To be fed up of people’s comments about my DS 12 who we are trying to shield

[littleblackdress04]

DS 12 has asthma & is on the shielding list as he’s on a long acting steroid inhaler mentioned on the asthma UK list. He has also been in hospital in the last year & is at risk if he gets Covid 19.

I am obviously really worried but trying to keep it all in perspective & keep calm for his sake.

Comments this week that people (friends/family) have said to me:
‘ oh my god if he gets it, it will be FATAL’
‘You must be terrified, he might die if he gets it’
‘You know he’s really at RISK’
‘Stats are that people with underlying conditions are much more likely to die’

Honestly, I am so fed up of it. I know people are concerned but I don’t need to be reminded at every opportunity of the risks to my lovely DS. The doctor & asthma nurse have been far more pragmatic & told me to chill, keep his meds up & stay well by getting exercise etc. The constant doom from other people is really getting me down.

Aibu? I don’t want to think the worse & live in constant hysteria & anxiety. Am just trying to live as normally as we can in the current situation & make sure he has his inhaler!

These people sound like dicks. Avoid/ignore, and get better friends when this is over!

Who are these people?! You know the risks you don’t need reminding. Honestly I wouldn’t have conversations with people that went on like that.
Take care of you and your DS and let the hysterical doom sharers crack on.

@Yesmate a friend said it to me today as well as others. It’s getting to me - feels like it’s brought out the worst in people doom wise

Incredibly insensitive of your friends. They really should know better - I would be tempted to let them know.

People are stupid! Of course it's serious if he is having to be shielded but that's why you are doing it. I'm sure shielding will be successful if you follow the guidelines carefully. It's not easy from the point of view of staying in for 12 weeks and I hope you and DS are coping ok.

YANBU-people are assholes.Just keep doing what you’re doing OP,and ignore those stupid twats!

Try to ignore it whilst simultaneously acknowledging that at least they aren't telling you that it's just the flu and you're making a big fuss about nothing to make yourself feel important.

Yeah people are actual dicks.
Hopefully you’ll all be ok.
Can I please ask @littleblackdress04 where you found the list on the athsma UK site I’ve been looking for days

I've stopped 'talking' to people in that I am only texting and the occasional phone call to nearest and dearest. I text my friends about once a week so no pressure. I'm in a vulnerable group and am like you don't really need reminding thank you very much.

They are probably trying to empathise with you. I've a feeling if they were down playing it, it would equally be upsetting to you. Understandably you are worried but you know the statistics are in your favour and you're taking all the right steps to eliminate the risks.

@PanicAtTheDiscLo

www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng166/chapter/1-Communicating-with-patients-and-minimising-risk

1.2 Be aware that severe asthma is defined by the European Respiratory Society and American Thoracic Society as asthma that requires treatment with high-dose inhaled corticosteroids (see inhaled corticosteroid doses for NICE's asthma guideline) plus a second controller (and/or systemic corticosteroids) to prevent it from becoming 'uncontrolled', or which remains 'uncontrolled' despite this therapy

@Blahblahblahhhh thanks I’m on a high dose of beclometasone dipropionate in the form of a fostair 200/6 after a year of really struggling to manage my asthma. I had a call from the gp to tell me to shield but no letter, hence the confusion. Xx