Is my husband right and AIBU?

[Blackdog19]

Please settle an argument between my DH and me. I was lucky enough to get a couple of food deliveries. I ordered food for us as well as my mum. So twice, She’s driven over and picked it up. She hasn’t come in the house. I’ve picked the bags up and put them in her boot. She has stood at least two metres from the door and talked to me & the children. My dh thinks we’ve flouted the lockdown. I think it’s better for her to do this than go shopping if she has no need to. Who is being unreasonable?

No she’s nor been going shopping. She’s had bits delivered by milkman and done a contactless pickup at butchers, but not been shopping. Doesn’t dislike her. However she came over day before lockdown started with Easter eggs and presents for children while his parents were understandably caught out so haven’t been able to give children their eggs. He moaned my mum’s presents were too big for storing.... (A kite each)

(She didn’t come indoors with the Easter bits left them outside).

Maybe it's just lock down pissing him off.

My mum had loads of stuff at her house. She has a static caravan and over winter she buys extra food for to stock it up. She had extra loo roll, meat (in the freezer) tis etc that she was going to take. Obviously the caravan site isnt reopening, so it was all surplus.

I had not been able to get to a supermarket and when I had it was empty.

So mum packed some of the extras she had into bags and I picked it up from her doorstep. Meant I could go longer without going to a supermarket and she didnt have all the extra stuff pointlessly.

Far more sensible than an extra trip to the supermarket.

Sounds like you're safe to me. He'll never leave you for your mother judging from this scenario.

I do this with my dad, deliver his shopping, medicine and chat to him in his garden remaining more than 2m away from him once a week. He lives alone, it is an essential journey and it is the only social interaction he gets.

Haha that made me laugh corona in the eye ball 😂
I do take it all very seriously though and abide by one weekly shop and only essential journeys.

However, I believe Covid 19 will not be the only killer, loneliness will be the other. Yes I understand the importance of social distancing, there are streets where neighbours chat to each other from each others gardens so you haven't done anything wrong in my opinion.

I don't think you've done anything wrong but would be inclined to drive to her house, leave bags of shopping on the doorstep, knock and then move well away while she collects.

I don't know how old your DC are, but letting them see their DGM from afar is a bit risky in case they run over to her for a hug. We've been doing a weekly walk here and we see lots of children running down the street and getting close to others. It's harder for children to judge 2m distance, and to remember they need to put distance between themselves and others. The children we see running close to others are aged from about 2/3 to about 10.

Also, see if you can order her a Morrison's box one week? I ordered one to my parents last week who live a 4 hour drive away, and one to my grandparents who live an 8 hour drive away.

He is BU, it's a good plan!

Your DH is being irrational. You've arranged a way for your DM to get her supplies which isn't endangering you and is much safer than her going to the shops.

Perhaps he's actually feeling guilty because he CBA to get his parents shopping for them.

It's harder for children to judge 2m distance, and to remember they need to put distance between themselves and others.

The OPs kids didn't need to judge the distance. They just had to stay with her at the doorway. Which presumably they did without any problems .

My dc are old enough to understand and wouldn’t run up for a hug-just and almost teenagers!

I wonder if it’s guilt too