To need my mum right now

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I’m an intensive care doctor and currently off work self isolating with likely covid. My symptoms seem to be easing and I am hoping I am over the worst of this. But right now all I want is a cuddle from my mum. I have been on my own for several days now after finishing my shifts last week and won’t be able to be back until late next week at the earliest. I’m trying to be positive when I speak to my parents and not worry them, they live a good distance away, and would never do anything to put them at risk but right now want a cuddle more than anything. I think I should be stronger but I just don’t feel it at the moment. And then I feel selfish because I’m getting better but there are so many of my patients that aren’t and I know I should be grateful to have a mild case of this.

You poor thing, of course you need a hug! I hope you continue to get better. I'm finding daily video calls make life a bit nicer, are your parents able to do that? What you are doing is absolutely heroic and just want to send you a virtual hug and many many many thanks.

Wanting a cuddle from your mum when you're sick and worried is pretty natural. It's not like you're going to break self isolation. But telling them you miss them and love them and you could do with a big hug when this is all over, that's no bad thing?

I know they aren't quite the right hugs for you, but sending the only hugs I have handy, because you deserve them.

@Bibijayne they know how much I miss them and can’t wait to see them. I just don’t want to worry them when I know how worried they are already. I decided to stop seeing them as soon as we got cases in early March as I felt it was too high risk from then. I just feel self indulgent right now and that I should be grateful for not being that poorly

Thanks @Speminalium - really kind of you. We have had video calls, I haven’t for a couple of days whilst poorly as don’t want to make them more worried. I hate this virus with a passion

Thank you @julybaby32, really kind of you

Thank you for everything you and your colleagues are doing. Sending you a big virtual hug. I'm not in your position, and very lucky to be only 5 mins around corner from my mum but I too have days like this.

Can you FaceTime them? I FaceTime my parents literally 3 times a day at the moment. I miss them lots and makes me feel better to actually see them even though we can’t visit x

Well I may not be your mum but I'm sending you a virtual hug OP.

Whenever I’m ill (properly ill, not just mildly unwell), I want my mum. When DD is ill, I want to be the one to look after her. I’m glad that, should we get this virus, I’ll be there to cuddle my DD but my mum won’t be there to hug me. DH will be but it won’t be the same!

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I hope you feel better soon! Thank you for putting yourself at risk to look after others!

I think its totally understandable. You have been ill, you have faced unspeakable things at work I imagine and you wont be the first to feel the pressure of it all. It's so hard not being able to go get a hug off the people who love you. Not that it helps but sending you virtual hugs. I think it's fine to feel sad and not self indulgent. Please take care and fully recover before going back in. Thank you for what you do.

Thank you for everything you do. You’re not unreasonable in the slightest, neither are you selfish or self indulgent. I’m not your mum but sending you a huge virtual hug anyway

You're the least self indulgent person imaginable! Survivor guilt is a thing, and it's not selfishness. And wanting a hug from your mom shows your humanity.

Thanks all. You are all being so lovely to me and I really appreciate it. Just needed to offload and I can’t thank you all enough.

Send virtual hugs your way

Totally natural to want your mum. Hope you feel better soon

Just to add my thanks to you. You are being incredibly unselfish and your mother must be very proud of you.

Oh you poor love. I just can't imagine being in your situation, and you've seen so much.

Be very kind and gentle to yourself, treat yourself as your Mum would treat you, and look forward to that lovely hug that your Mum and you both so much want to have.

Give your mum a ring or even better, a FaceTime call if possible.

I wish I could do the same as I'm struggling in other ways (not in the way you are of course as an ICU doctor). Sadly my Mum doesn't give a flying F about me and hasn't ever hugged me, and my Dad died 10 years ago.

Your parents will be there, ready & waiting with hugs and more hugs for when this is all over.

Thank you for all of your hard work

You’re never too old to need a hug from your mum. Especially at times like these. I’m sending you a big squidgy one too. Thank you so much for the brilliant work you’re doing and get well soon. 💐

Hug from me too.
The worst thing about being off (rota-ed in my case) is wondering how bad it will be when you go back in. But don't go back until you are ok!

Loving Mums are very special. My DMum is in her 90s, she confessed the other day that it times like this she would love to have a hug from her Mum!

Someone told me a few weeks ago that I give great hugs, I felt that was a great compliment, so I am sending you one of my best hugs now. Along with thanks for everything that you do.

Hugs for you too Haven

Yanbu-I want a hug from my mum and I’m not doing anything! Is absolutely want a hug from her in your situation. Have one from me and think how very many you will give her when this is over.

Big hug op......and thank you just isnt enough but its all I have!!!
Think you are all amazing.
I cannot imagine hope proud you're parents will be!!!
Hope you feel better soon x