Separate from him ? AIBU

[Mdbk]

I've been married for 7 years, we have two kids - 5 and 2 years. I had a very good career which I paused to raise my kids ( my personal decision as I wanted to raise the kids myself, DH was supportive). DH has a demanding career which he loves and I'm able to support it by taking on everything else ( he can travel, work late, go early whenever ).
Since the lockdown, I find DH is being a d*. He doesn't put in enough work into the kids. I'm always exhausted. I decided to take a 30 min break today. He put on a movie for himself and played the nursery rhymes on TV for kids at the time they were supposed to have dinner!
It's been piling up. We never have sex now. He is a workaholic, we don't share any connection. I sleep and wake up with the kids. He sleeps late and wakes up late in a different room.
Im thinking a separation is due. AIBU ?

Well... apparently the number one industry in China right now is divorce lawyers... but I would be inclined to not make a decision until things get back to normal. That's not to say you can't pull him up on how he's not helping? I'm guessing he's furloughed rather than working from home? If he's WFH you prob need to be a bit more gentle as he still has a job, he's just under your feet while doing it- dsnt mean he shouldn't step up- just that he's obvs not going to be as much help as if he's not working at all? Emotions are bound to run high given how close we're having to be right now but don't forget you loved him enough to have kids and he loved you enough to support tour wish to stay home with the kids for these last few years. Don't put up with him being crap but don't throw away a marriage that could get back to good with a stern talking to and him stepping up a bit more

As the other person said, making decisions in lockdown is a bad idea. My husband is being an arse, he doesn't have an office to strut about with people feeding his self esteem and making him feel important, it's also his main interaction with others, so it drives me bonkers that he's now strutting around the house and inexplicably working more hours than usual but now isn't the time. I have friends to catch up with, send messages to and men don't have that so much. I think they're hunkering down into their caves but see what life is like after, because THAT is your life, not this one.

Also don't sleep with the kids, I don't really understand why people do that. In one way or another reigniting your sexuality with or without your husband is surely important? And at least it's one lockdown activity you can probably manage. Surely there's some vaguely erotic book you can read and you can shut yourself in the bathroom for a while.

Thank you @kitk and @boylovesmeerkats