Breach of lockdown

[LampShades]

Next door neighbours are a 2 person household, husband and wife in late fifties.

Their daughter and granddaughter, who do not live with them, have just turned up in their car, for no obvious reason but to stop and have a chat, share an ice lolly and go for a short walk together!

The woman who lives next door explained her job as being a nurse when we moved in (I don't think that's her official role, based on her different uniform to the actual nurses who work in the local hospital where she works, but she does work in healthcare) so I just expect her to know better in terms of mixing households and the effect on infections.

I've read the guidance carefully, and since she and her husband have been out and about for the exemptions to the lock down, they must not be self isolating or shielding, and are not vulnerable or needing any support. This was not an emergency and just a social visit from extended family.

If that child has also been mixing with friends, who knows what my neighbour could be taking in to hospital next week.

I've reported it on the local police website, but I doubt anything will come from it.

AIBU in thinking she also needs to be told, and actually understand what her behaviour is doing?

Please do

AIBU in thinking she also needs to be told, and actually understand what her behaviour is doing?

Is she a toddler?

You've shopped her to the police, there is no further action that it is appropriate for you to take. Cincentrate on yourself and your own family and to minimise your chances of infection.

I'd think it was the other way round and she would be bringing stuff out of hospital. There's nothing to say that the child's been mixing with anyone else.

How close were they when walking?

Is she a toddler?

She's acting as though she understands the issue about as well as a toddler, but can't be actually stopped from mixing like you have to do with a toddler!

Either that or she's so self entitled to think that the rules don't apply to her.

How close were they when walking?

Literally close enough to share the ice lolly.

Regardless, it is not your place to say something to her. You've notified the police so now the best thing to do is to let it go.

Mind your own business. Concentrate on you and your own household.

Mind your own business.

Normally, I would agree. But this affects us all, because they're selfishly and deliberately not avoiding spreading a deadly virus.

Surely if everyone thought that they'd be okay to mix a couple of households from their extended family, the problem would be greater.

You've reported it to the police. There is nothing more you can, or indeed should, do.

You have reported to the police, so what exactly is your point in posting here? Validation?

Encouragement to get into a verbal argument with the neighbour?

Form a vigilante group with pitchforks and roam the streets, use the pitchfork......social distancing...to prod and push all guideline breakers back to where they should be.
That'll learn her

You have done the civic thing in reporting, what now, building a stake for her to be burned at.
FFS

The point in posting was never to ask whether they should be reported and, no, I don't need to feel validated about doing that. They have broken the rules, which are there to prevent more harm.

There is no 'argument', because this isn't my opinion or alternative preference of behaviour. They have no justification for thinking they ought to be able to still meet up when we've been told not to.

I'm asking whether to say something, because quite often, people do try to get away with breaking the rules if they think they won't get caught.

Making it clear they have noticed could encourage them to think about doing the right thing to save face.

and flaming torches, don't forget the flaming torches.

I doubt it. You'll just be told to MYOB I imagine.

Neighbours on one side of us are currently sat in the garden of and with neighbours on the other side of us. Sigh.

You've done all you can or indeed should, do.

They KNOW they risks; everyone does but for some, the need to see their loved ones trumps the risk. It's not something I am doing or agree with but all I can do is police my own behaviour. I very much dislike the creeping narrative of public blame and encouraging people to 'grass'.

The reason thousands are dying in the UK is down to the governments policy at the start and throughout this crisis.

I have friends who are visiting relatives this weekend. They asked my opinion, I said I absolutely wouldn't and won't be. Any further action is their own choice. I appreciate that travelling and visiting increases the risk for us all but if I stay home, my exposure is reduced. They know what they are doing.

Here's the pat on the back you're looking for OP 🤚

Just remember - the Stasi had no problems recruiting.

Only say something if you want your neighbour to regard you with utter contempt in the future.

It isn’t going to get a good reception is it? What do you hope to gain?

Mind your own business

I think you should say something, these people and their selfish behaviour needs to be called out and shamed.

All this.... stay out of it.... Typical British behaviour. Speak up.

You've reported it, your concience is clean.

The chances that you telling them directly is new news to them is pretty tiny.

If they've managed to ignore nearly 4 weeks of social distancing and 3 weeks of lockdown messages which have been pretty blunt, I doubt very much that being told by a neighbour will change their behaviour, and is pretty likely to result in longer term aggro.

You can not control other people's behaviour and choices. You have controlled what you can - which is report it to the police.

Do I personally think you are out of order - yes.
If they get it or pass it on to each other - that is the consequence for their actions.

Do I think you should face your own feelings of grief in being in this situation and move past the blame and anger stage - that you are projecting onto someone else. Yes.