To be furious with ex whilst caring for dc?

[TooManyTigers]

Ex hadn’t seen the dc since lockdown as he was still working in a very public facing role. Very quickly his company closed and we agreed he would wait a week and then have them Monday to Sat so dp and I could concentrate on WFH. Eldest is ASD and youngest rather boisterous so the quiet was very much needed. We discussed keeping everyone safe beforehand, and he promised he had done a big food shop and wouldn’t need to go anywhere but the dc could play in the garden and go for walks etc, he would take every precaution etc... thats exactly what we were doing in my house so all good.
I’ve now spoken to my dc on FaceTime and they have been into ex’s workplace several times to apparently do some closing up with his colleagues. The youngest has been to the supermarket with him twice and to a large store for decorating things. The dc are due back later and I’m so annoyed at myself for putting them and now us at risk! I don’t know what to even say to ex, am I being OTT?

I’d be fuming too BUT I can also see it from his side (I wouldn’t be able to do this if it was happening to me as my ex infuriates me). So before lockdown I’d meal planned and thought I had enough food for roughly 2 weeks, in reality we were shopping (at out corner shop) every 2 days for bread and milk and by the end of the first week my partner had to go out and do a shop that came to £80 and was literally lunch things and top ups of bread and milk. I can’t believe how much food is being consumed by the boys at the moment, it’s crazy and I don’t even think they are over eating. I’d perhaps think he just hadn’t realised just how much food he’d need. I also have sympathy for all single parents - if you need food and have to go to the supermarket then the children would unfortunately have to go too. As for work, it may have just cropped up, was it essential? Who knows! But as a reasonably organised Mum who thought I had everything in check for at least a couple of weeks isolation, I really didn’t. Today my partner has had to go out for Gaviscon and sanitary towels due to unexpected reflux and also my constant gagging and coughing at slight smells making me wee a little 🙈 I’m starting to feel less and less in control every day of all aspects of life. So yes I’d be fuming and if it was me I’d go mad at him but from the outside I think he’s probably just done the best he can under the circumstances. X

Thanks, I appreciate getting another opinion. I’ve now spoken to him, apparently he needed milk, and didn’t want to leave them in the car, they are 8 and 14.... and said the guys at work aren’t unwell so he wasn’t worried 🙄 anyway what’s done is done I suppose, I’m not happy about it at all but can’t change it now.