For telling dp about friend who works for him she is leaving then find out i have called her bluff? Long

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I used to work along side this girl in my dp's bakery doing shop work; serving etc until i left to have dd. We have always had one of those on/off friendships because she can be quite moody at times and she has been saying for the past two years now that she is leaving and getting another job and seems to think if she leaves the whole place will close down. I know she doesn't like the job but stays because it's quite good pay,good holidays,bank holidays off and Mon-Fri. She doesn't like my dp either and your probably thinking what i am, why not just leave if your that unhappy?

Yesterday i had a txt from her saying she was handing in her notice on Friday to which i replied 'why are you telling me?' (because i am the bosses fiance). She got the arse and said 'fuck you then' blah blah blah.

I got worried then because dp has booked and payed for a 3 day trip to Paris for us in two weeks meaning if she hands in her notice on Friday she would leave next Friday. So if she did hand her notice in this would mean we wouldn't be able to go because he would be either training a new member of staff or i would be working to cover. I did explain this but i got a reply of 'i aint changing my life plans for no one.' So i had to tell my dp what she told me because i didn't want him to lose his money for the Paris trip. I wouldn't expect her to say no to job so i could go on a trip but her 'i aint changing my life plans' response was nasty and spiteful.

That is the only reason i told him, i didn't do it for the sake of it. Anyway so i told her that i had to tell him because of the trip and she has completly gone mad about it saying i can't call myself a friend etc and she then said she probably won't take the job she has applyed for because it is less money

So AIBU for telling him for the reason given? Or is she just very angry because i called her bluff? What do you think?

It won't be hard to find a replacement, but your DP will need to follow proper procedure in getting rid of her ie she needs to be given a warning that her work is not satisfactory, followed by another warning, etc (I am not 100% sure of how it works but unless an employee has committed gross misconduct ie stealing or kicking your DP in the nuts or something) you can't just give them notice because you don't like them.

Your right it isn't a big skilled job to work there which is why i can't understand why she can't find a better job? I think she has it too cosy there now and will have a shock when she does go to a new job.

Jobs like hers are usually for parents looking for some extra cash, older ladies who are content with a part time job or for young girls who stay there a while then move on. She is making out like it is a top career job and like no one will be able to fill her shoes.

I believe you have to give two written warnings now.

I have been feeling quite resentful for a while towards her because dp and i got engaged in May, then two months later she starts going on about wedding plans with her boyfriend who she has being seeing for 6 months. Then last week she got a ring twice the size of mine making me feel totally out shined and upstaged!

Get him to give her one now and one next week then give notcie when you get back. why he hasn't given her a warning before now is beyond me.

You can't just do it like that Lovemygirls. YOu have to follow proper procedures. I know someone who is about to lose their business because they were hit with a £50k payout for firing someone because they didn't do it properly. And tbh, although I feel very sorry for them, I also think they were incredibly stupid.

you could say you accept her resignation but would like it in writting. maybe you may have to cancel trip, but wouldnt it be better in long term to get rid while you can?

If she does leave before you go to Paris - can I have the job? Working in a cake shop.....might not be too much merchandise left by the time you get back tho.

ICOT, big rocks are vulgar.

If your partner wants to get rid of her he could phone ACAS to get some guidence. We call them whenever we are about to sack someone to double check whether we have followed the procedures correctly.

It is a minefield even if people have worked for you for less than a year.

Can you not fire her on capability grounds? She sounds as though she isn't actually doing the job properly TBH.

She would definatly try and get money out of it if she were fired. This is someone who is claming compensation from the council for triping over on the pavement and knocking her two front teeth out! What she failed to tell the council was that she happened to be pissed out of her head at the time she fell over!

Trust me, if she thinks she can get a payout she will try and get one!

I would report her to the council. That is fraud and I would find a way to get rid of her immediately. Don't give her any kind of pay off and ignore her. She sounds like she is jealous of you.

Well this morning she handed in her notice, i think mainly because she would have looked very stupid if she didn't having made such a fuss about it. It's time for her to move on and dp can finally employ someone who is better.

Phew. Thank God she's out of your life. Have a lovely time in Paris

Will you still be able to go on your Paris trip?

No, dp and i won't be going to Paris now because she leaves next Friday so the week after (when we supposed to be going) either i will be working to cover or he will be training someone new. I am absolutly gutted.

You won't go at all? Thats such a shame. Don't let her know you are bothered though, far better to get rid of her and go another time when the place can be left in someone's hands that you trust.