Broke up with my ex in January. The break up was not bad and we stayed in contact. We just didn’t have time due to the distance and busy lives. He also has a complicated relationship with his teenage daughter and ex. He says his ex controls his daughters thoughts and when he can see her. He got low and upset when he couldn’t see her, so shut everyone out, despite offers of support.
Since mid feb we saw each other a few times and texted daily. When lockdown was coming he had to work from home and me nhs. We discussed doing lockdown together. However he kept saying he was high risk and wanted to stay alone, only risking it for his kid. His ex wouldn’t let his kid see him, as he was high risk. After 2 weeks alone he decided he wasn’t high risk (he has mild asthma), and said maybe we should, but concerned I work for nhs, so I was high risk. I also didn’t want to travel 45 mins to work (live 10 mins away), with long shifts. In this time I helped him with a charity idea abs hooked him up with connections.
Suddenly last week on Facebook he has moved in with a female friend an hour away from his kid, with hers, so definitely not going to see his kid now. He says it’s platonic but lack of communication hints it’s not. Says she is struggling and she us like his sister.
However, towards the end of last year he kept saying he had reconnected with a guy friend in the town she lives. Going out and doing things. However a Facebook look on her page ( I know I shouldn’t but can’t help), I can see what he said he was doing with “guy friend” was her. More things are starting to appear. I haven’t told him I know - I want to - but it’s really hurt me.
If it was a female friend, that’s fine, just say But the lies replacing a guys name when it was her, has hurt me. Looks like he cheated and moved in at first opportunity. He has form for that in previous relationships. He also said that he was honest and never cheated in the past. All his ex’s were crazy and I was perfect.
What’s really annoyed me was the statement that he was not risking going out now except for his kid. He has gone against that now and moved in with his “friend”. He is also driving back to his house each day to make his charity stuff, non essential travel. More lies. Why am I still so hurt. I don’t want him back, but can’t understand the lies!