To think this man was uneccessarily rude?

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I went to a large supermarket yesterday for the first time since lockdown started. I have been to shops, but just my local village convenience store and greengrocers.
Its my usual supermarket. Parked my car and walked to get a trolley. Dr some reason, habitual behaviour took over so I just instinctively walked towards the door.
I then became aware of a man laughing loudly and exageratedly at me and pointing whilst shaking his head, then gesturing at the massive queue down the side of the building behind him (which I hadn't seen from the front of the store)
It made me feel really stupid and he seemed very keen to make others aware of my mistake.
I didn't say anything apart from "oops" and skunk to the back of the queue.
AIBU to think this was really rude?

FOR some reason!

And SLUNK not skunk!!!

Doesn’t sound that rude to me.

Yes. That's really mean of him. No need to humiliate you :-(

Yabvu everyone knows that you queue for the super market.
He was very polite all he did was laugh and point you to the end of the queue, yes you were embarrassed by your mistake but he wasn't rude. Should he have let you queue jump?

It's rude but I have to admit it was my only entertainment when I was stood in the M&S queue. We all grab what entertainment we can at the moment. He shouldn't have been rude though.

I don't know how young you are but It seemed to be predominantly 20s and younger that were rocking up, grabbing a trolley then just walking towards door despite there being a MASSIVE queue. I was just doing little inner tuts.

Completely unnecessary and rude. He could have done it far more politely and not been a condescending tool. Lots of people are feeling anxious as it is, without behaviour like this exacerbating it. I hope you didn’t feel too bad afterwards.

He was enjoying his moment. His ‘being right’ moment. People who do this do it because they’re not often right in my experience. Everyone else in the queue was probably empathising with you.

Not really - most people are aware of the state of the supermarkets at the moment and the massive queues outside them so he probably thought you were trying it on. And I've seen it happen a couple of times so far - seems to be fairly good humoured where I am even if there is laughter

I really can't get too upset over this. You must be a very sensitive person.

Maybe, but honestly let it go!

But if he hadn't done that you wouldn't have noticed and you'd have got away with pushing in in front of a large queue of people waiting patiently. He might have humiliated you, but that large queue will be thanking him.

I have seen my fair share of ‘ people on auto pilot’ barging right past me and then said auto piloters being directed to the back of the queue by staff.

This mans behaviour was probably more of a commentary on your behaviour not you as a person. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be to point the bloody obvious out to people every damn minute, especially when the responses is often aggressive.

If he hadn't stopped you the supermarket worker at the front of the shop would have done and you would still have had to trudge back to the back of the queue in front of everyone.

Hmmm, yes I accept that I am over sensitive at the moment due to general anxiety I think. I just don't think laughing when someone makes a mistake is very nice.

I’m shocked that people think that humiliating someone like this is OK, when there is a far better alternative...I.e. simply saying “Excuse me, but there is a queue”.

But how did he know you were just in auto pilot and had made a genuine mistake vs being entitled and thinking that the rules don't apply to you? We've all seen our fair share of the latter behaviour over the last few weeks!

Yeah, not very nice, but not exactly the rudest behaviour I've ever seen at the supermarket either. Let it go!

I was in a queue at Sainsburys a couple of days ago, an elderly gentleman made the same mistake and someone pointed to the queue - at this point I would estimate about an hour long. He started to walk away and the security guy called him back and let him straight in. One of the loveliest gestures I have seen in a long time.

I just don't think laughing when someone makes a mistake is very nice.

You are right of course but having to explain the bloody obvious frequently must get very tedious too. As I said ‘auto pilot’ is fast becoming to be an excuse for being oblivious to what’s happening around you.

mynameiscalypso, why would you automatically assume the worst? Doing this is what leads to a mean passive aggressive response as received by the OP. Surely it is better to start off polite, and if you get a cocky response, then match it appropriately if you feel that is necessary?!

Pushing in a queue is even less nice though and to him that’s what you where doing.

Well maybe he responded on auto pilot too 🙄

You might have been the tenth person he’d seen doing that, hence the laugh. Who knows?

People’s emotions and behavior are out of whack right now. He was rude but I’d give him a pass.

Also, maybe normally you’d laugh at yourself a bit also. It’s perfectly understandable to lose ourselves and forget that things aren’t like normal right now. So don’t feel badly!