Kids outside too early?

[PinkSparkleUnicorns]

It's 8:20 and I've just let my young kids out to play. Instantly regretting it! They are not screaming and shouting but enough noise to wake the neighbours behind us I think. I just wasn't thinking, is there an unspoken time that's generally acceptable to send kids out to play?

9am is being considerate of others. Any earlier is not. We live on a street with a lot of shift workers- thankfully most neighbours don’t send their kids out until after 10, although I do miss the noise of kids playing since lockdown started.

DC are up at 5. I can't wait til 10 to let them out. Neighbours will have to deal with it

Far too much of this attitude. Why should the neighbours have to deal with your DC if you can't? Why on earth are they getting up at 5am? Try putting them to bed later.

"Sunday. 8-9 is fine. Wake the lazy bastards up."

It's not lazy to be in bed at 9 on a Sunday. Some people need to recuperate the sleep they didn't get during the week.

I don't mind after 8 depending on the children. Our neighbor let's hers out at 7am and they constantly scream until about 8pm. They have no additional needs, they are just very loud. I am shielded so it is my only outdoor space at the moment so I do get frustrated and have noticed the neighbor has started playing loud rap music full of swearing while they are out. It is fun around here atm...

If your kids are loud it is nice to at least bring them in for a couple of hours though so people could at least sit out in peace during that time.

My retired neighbour has been out reading in his garden since 8am, dd (16) went out at 11am and started kicking her ball into the net - I find it such an annoying sound... thud thud thud... anyhow she has now gone up the shop for said neighbour - maybe he’s trying to have a few last minutes peace.

I assume its their own garden OP and not the street?

Yesterday I was sitting in my garden by 8am with a cup of coffee. I could hear the children who live behind me giggling and asking a parent to”get the bricks out”. I could here a couple of dogs barking and a cockerel crowing (THAT annoys me as we are in London and I don’t think a cockerel is appropriate - I actually live a good quarter of a mile away from it so it doesn’t wake me but it does wake a friend who lives VERY near it).

This morning I was awake at 7 but still in bed with my coffee and a book until nearly 10am. My elderly neighbour was mowing her lawn by 8.30.

All perfectly acceptable as far as I’m concerned.

DC are up at 5. I can't wait til 10 to let them out. Neighbours will have to deal with it

the way you will be dealing with loud kids or loud neighbours until midnight, or are you one of these inconsiderate idiots too?

I assume its their own garden OP and not the street?
what's the difference? Private gardens don't have magical noise-stoppers at the boundary.

We have a family of screamers here - no additional needs.

They tend not to come out until 10-ish but the screaming all day until 7pm. It’s not children playing - it is screaming. Often ‘oh my god’ and/or ‘leave me alone’ and maximum decibel followed by screeching (siblings chasing each other). Dad is pretty loud too - shouted at them yesterday not to shout at their mum! They have a massive garden and seem to think there’s an invisible noise barrier around them.

Loads of families around here playing out and making noise...it is just them.

Mind you...the hot tub hasn’t been on yet!

I let mine out whenever. Our neighbours are either old or have children similar ages.
If they start to cry or fight, they come in.

But i won't allow footballs against fences because that is a terrible noise!

Dad is pretty loud too - shouted at them yesterday not to shout at their mum!
And then suddenly it's obvious why the children have no volume control.

It's a bit like parents in shops who are loud to each other and then shout at their child at full volume telling them to be quiet. Any wonder why the child is noisy when their parents have every conversation at foghorn volume?

There's a child a couple doors down who has a particularly piercing shouty voice. Lots of kids are in their gardens but his voice you can hear above all others. I quite like the general buzz of the children playing but yikes he is annoying!
I think his parents must be aware as it was quiet until dead on 10am when he started up!
For some reason many kids don't talk they shout so I'm sure your neighbours will appreciate a later start on the weekends - especially now when its warm enough to sleep with the windows open.

@nuttymomma yep in our own private garden. I think here 10 feels more acceptable as it sounds like the whole world is still asleep up till then. I've mentally noted it, will keep them in longer from now on. My neighbours have been quite considerate so far so I'm going to try to remain considerate back.

One of my DC has special needs and cannot control his volume. He wasn't too bad this morning but they will just have to put up with his noise level I'm afraid!

If people want to sleep in they can always wear earplugs

That's right. Everyone should change their behaviour to accommodate a single family.

@DysonFury my DS6 was up at 10:30am (not shocked) he's a good sleeper, but falls asleep really late and wakes up naturally late too - he has never woken up naturally before 9 (unless for school obviously) - lucky us! He gets enought sleep though so I guess that's what matters..... he's practising for teenage years.

We let ours out at 9.
We still hear kids out playing till 10pm so think majority of neighbours wake up late and let kids stay out till late but we still have a routine so in bed by 8 so they are up early.
Before 9 we have breakfast and allow tv.

Letting kids scream and play till 10pm is just as bad if not worse...

DC here usually wait til after 9am but aren't generally too loud and we're lucky that our garden is pretty big so they can keep away from the neighbours when they're out. I'll give them a reminder if they get too loud.

I think it's a bit of give and take - you have to expect to teach your DC a bit of respect and kindness if you know they're being crazy loud and you have to expect your neighbours to tolerate a little noise. There have been times I've sent mine indoors for screeching too loudly when they're battering one another on the trampoline, and they learned pretty quickly.

Way too early. Bearing in mind they are dressed and have had breakfast already - what time to you all get up in the morning?

Give them something to do. Get them involved in the routine stuff. Make beds, help tidy away after breakfast etc must be done before playtime. Sit down with them and make a list of things they are going to do that day. Talk to them for a bit. If they go to school they will be used to routine and if they don't go to school it's never to early to start. Kids generally need to be given some kind of rules.

They have all day to play out.

My two are allowed out at 7:30, but we have a good-sized garden and they are not screamers. The only neighbours they might disturb are the same ones that play music till late at night keeping DC awake, so I don't feel too guilty if there is some payback.

I usually let mine out at 9am but I live in an area where there are lots of families so there are other kids out too. Plus our neighbours either side are always up and about by then. Both retired, but I see them out walking the dog, going for papers etc. I’ve never had any complaints.

Letting kids scream and play till 10pm is just as bad if not worse...

letting kids scream is bad whatever the time.

Putting kids to bed later and letting them sleep later is so much easier for everybody.

MamaBearLockdown each to their own.
It’s not easier for us...amongst all this madness having an evening is vital to my sanity. So putting them to bed and having some time to myself even for an hour is what gets me through the day.
Understand what works for one doesn’t work for all...