Husband wfh and I'm struggling to cope

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Really just need a rant more so. I think I'm BU. My husband has been wfh for the last few weeks. I still work outside the home but part time. Aibu to just feel a lot of resentment at the moment that he's working away and I'm trying to keep the children entertained and stop them from disturbing him as well as potty train a toddler and look after a baby too? Then I'm making lunch for him for 1pm and he leaves goes back to his "office" whilst I clean up then he goes for a run at 6pm. To top it off he was up to 5am last night on house party with his friends drinking and could barely function today not to mention the noise which kept me up. He's asleep now and I'm trying to get stuff sorted for work at 6am when I should be well in bed by now.

Why do you all put up with this crap?

You need some balance - sit down and talk to him about who does what, when.
He should be taking turns to make meals, and helping with the kids. You aren’t his fecking maid.

I’m not working right now, so home schooling kids. DW is working FT from home but is still helping with brekkie, lunch, dinner - and taking kids off to park or wherever lunchtime or after ‘school’ for an hour so I get some time.
We’re working it around her calls, meetings or whatever. So if she has a later call 7pm she’ll hang out with the kids 4-6pm then work in the evening.
Housework is also split and at weekends we both do jobs around the hse.
You need to read the riot act to your DH. Unless he genuinely is busy every second of every day between 8am-6pm.

What happens (re childcare / chores) on the days that you work?

We have taken the view at work that family comes first. People who have caring duties or are home schooling duties have changed there hours.

No one is expected to do 9:00 - 5:00, it is task oriented, these are not usual times.

We are not working from home but we are in a pandemic trying to get work done from home.

I suggest you tell your husband that you are a team and therefore all the childcare and household tasks will be split equally because he is equally responsible for both.