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AIBU to ask if anyone else’s husbands are just being a bit shit at the moment

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mumof2exhausted · 10/04/2020 20:52

So we are on week 3 of working from home, we have two boys aged 4 and 6 and I’m
6 months pregnant with the third. During the week husband goes upstairs to office and is still working full time so just comes down for lunch and then finishes work about 5.30 and will have a play in garden for half an hour whilst I make dinner. He normally gets home 7ish so is seeing them more in the day but I’m doing majority of childcare /home schooling / maintaining house etc. All absolutely fine.

Obviously come the weekend it’s more split - well in my eyes it should be. But he’s really struggling being around the kids all the time (without being able to take them to soft play etc). He is just so grumpy and snappy with them. Yes they are playing up a bit but surely that’s to be expected? I always knew that patience wasn’t his strong point but I’m really so disappointed with him. I find myself sticking up for the kids and telling him he’s being over the top when telling them off for something silly. It’s a tough time for everyone- shouldn’t he be able to just suck it up and stop being so grumpy with everyone or am I asking too much? Maybe I’m just more used to being around them all the time as I only work part time (4 year old only does mornings at preschool). So am I being unreasonable expecting him to stop being such a grumpy arse with everyone??

OP posts:
ConstanceDoodleton · 10/04/2020 20:59

I always knew that patience wasn’t his strong point

In what way? Sounds like this isn't a new issue

Fallingstars20 · 10/04/2020 20:59

Yep my H has been crap tbh. I am doing extra laundry/cleaning since we (me, h and dd5) are all home, meal planning, homeschooling, all pet admin while working from home in a job about the same level of demanding as his. I have stopped asking him to help with dd tbh because he just gets snappy so easily and because our flat is small he is always complaining it’s noisy/crowded/etc. I bought dd a little paddling pool for our balcony today and he’s already managed to suck the joy out of it going on about how the cat will scratch it, it’s only allowed to stay in one place, she can’t have cushions instead of water in it, bla bla bla. when he isn’t working he just games with noise cancelling headphones on and eats half the contents of the fridge. I have honestly never seen this purely selfish and grumpy side of him until now but some of his demeanour has been enough to make me want to leave. I wish I was exaggerating.

Fallingstars20 · 10/04/2020 21:00

And I also stick up for dd - which makes him give me the silent treatment because I “always criticise him”! Projection much...

Mistystar99 · 10/04/2020 23:40

You are the twat for keeping on having kids with him!

maras2 · 10/04/2020 23:47

mistystar Shock Why would you call OP a twat?
Don't be so nasty. Angry

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