To ask for ideas on maintaining long distance relationship in lockdown

[Tinyhumansurvivalist]

Dp has his own house, his job is a national role and so prior to lock down he lived 50/50 with me and at his own home.

He was at his when the lockdown started and has remained there. We work for the same company and both classed as key workers although he is able to work from home I am still office/warehouse based (supermarket supply chain). He is terribly lonely, frustrated, isolated. He has no friends or family outside of me and my dd...

I see my parents daily, they aren't in any at risk groups, and are looking after dd for me. He is struggling with being so isolated. It brings back memories of when his fiance and their child died and then his mum.

We have been video calling him almost every day, sending silly cards, dd has been sending him pictures etc. But how else can I help him feel like he is still part of our family?

He is grumpy and lashing out that I still have contact with people ie talking to my folks, seeing people at work etc. I get why, I need to help him still feel like he is connected to us but other than trite notes I am at a loss for ideas.

Help me please?!

Just for clarity other than dropping off dd I don't visit my parents, I just drop her off, we have a chat on the doorstep and we leave.

Are you near enough that you could combine a visit to each others garden or front path (one of you stays inside) with your allowed once a day exercise? Or, meet half way with 2m distance in same way? From experience, being alone so much isn't good when you're grieving like he is. Also, a goal to focus on helps, plan something for when this is over & ask for ideas off him, refer to it, etc, plan it together. Focusing on positive, happy scenarios stops you spiralling. Is he structuring his day with stuff he enjoys too, once work is done, a regular routine helps.

If he has done 14 days isolation in his own home therefore is virus free then could he just move into yours( if that's what you would want of course).

@CSIblonde unfortunately 100 miles apart. But yeah we will definitely be planning something big for when this is over!

@bernadette I have already suggested that on several occasions but sue to having to drive 100miles to get here he is worried that the police would arrest him if he travels so it gets shot down in flames every time.