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Am I a arsehole for NOT clapping!?

102 replies

Glitterzzz · 09/04/2020 20:14

Just that really. Yes I appreciate the NHS and always have done and can only imagine what all of the staff are going through up and down the country but I just don’t feel the need to run out and clap on my doorstep! On my street we have no escalated to bringing out pots and pans to bang with wooden spoons and fireworks.. I know within minutes the videos will be uploaded to Facebook from mine and surrounding streets to ‘ show off ‘ the turn out ... part of me feels like a arsehole for not following the trend and the other half just cringes when I hear it all going off..

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HoffiCoffi13 · 09/04/2020 20:16

I did the first week but haven’t since. Partly because I’m usually putting the DC to bed at that time, and partly because all the NHS staff I know say they’d appreciate people voting for a government who ensures they are adequately funding more than they appreciate a clap.

BrooHaHa · 09/04/2020 20:16

No, you are not being an arsehole for not clapping.

I may, however, be being an arsehole for pointing out your grammatical error.

HoffiCoffi13 · 09/04/2020 20:17

*funded, not funding

c3pu · 09/04/2020 20:17

I gave it a stiff ignoring, whilst watering my front garden everyone else was clapping, bashing pots and pans, blaring out shite music like "you'll never walk alone" and "we'll meet again".

FinallyHere · 09/04/2020 20:18

I joined in the first two weeks. Expected to be a lone voice (hand?) but in fact there were loads of people joining in.

Then, they started the clap for Boris which has put me off the whole idea.

onemouseplace · 09/04/2020 20:20

No, and the FB shamers are already out in force, which makes me even less likely to clap.

WAMS · 09/04/2020 20:21

NYANBU, it's now just become a way to judge people...noting who hasn't clapped long enough, loud enough, in the right way...I even got a call from an inlaw at 7.55 checking I was ready to clap!! No, Im watching tv. And guess what, that doesn't make me les appreciative of what key workers are doing..it's just that I am capable of being appreciative in a quiet, unassuming, non attention seeking, non competitive way!!

Doyoumind · 09/04/2020 20:22

I haven't ever done it. It coincides with getting DC to bed. I hadn't expected my street to do it anyway. If they have the last couple of weeks I haven't heard though I did today and it made me jump as I didn't even realise what time it was.

EatDessertFirst · 09/04/2020 20:23

Most of the twats down my road who clap like seals are the ones having visitors into their households every day and one lot have even been driving to the beach (car laden with beach stuff). Yes I am a bit of a curtain twitcher but they haven't exactly been quiet about it. Like fuck will I join in with those virtue signalling muppets. I do my bit by staying indoors like we are meant to. What good does clapping do??

DrWAnker · 09/04/2020 20:24

My next door neighbours decided to bang pots and pans for a full 5 fucking minutes.
I've had a headache all day and just got 3yo to sleep.
Not fucking amused. Clap if you want, there's no need to make a fricking spectacle of it (especially when it's just you). FFS.

Ladyinamask · 09/04/2020 20:26

No don’t worry nor do I. I was putting children to bed tonight last time I was actually at work doing handover!
I’m a front line nurse. I would rather people respected us more and we got a pay rise.
I have had 20 years of “ only a nurse” suddenly I’m a hero?

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Glitterzzz · 09/04/2020 20:26

I would imagine what the nhs really need is for people to stay home , be provided with proper PPE and be paid a good wage rather than this... I can only imagine what’s coming next week 😂

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EmbarrassedUser · 09/04/2020 20:27

You don’t need to start a thread about to to try and get validation about why it’s ok not to clap. Either do it or don’t do it 🙄 I don’t get why so many MNers are against it though. We were out again tonight, as were quite a lot of out street and it was fun.

Thescrewinthetuna · 09/04/2020 20:28

Once was enough. It was quite moving the first time. Now it’s just ridiculous IMO but everyone feels a bit nervous and trapped so if it makes the people doing it happy then that’s OK with me.

Strawberrycreamsundae · 09/04/2020 20:28

Nope, I’m a retired nurse and it makes me cringe ☹️
Tonight’s hollering and shouting was ridiculous imo.

TheThingWithFeathers · 09/04/2020 20:30

I don't clap. When will people actually stop? There will be some folk out there who will be clapping every Thursday night for YEARS.

HoffiCoffi13 · 09/04/2020 20:31

I live in a Tory stronghold. The majority of the people outside in my town clapping are the ones who voted for the government who were open about reducing funding to the NHS/voting down pay rises for nurses etc. I’m not really sure how they have the nerve!

Kittykat93 · 09/04/2020 20:32

Really don't appreciate people coming outside and making as much racket as possible banging pots and pans. Ive got a 2 year old asleep. A small clap on the door step fine. But people take the piss!

x2boys · 09/04/2020 20:33

Clap.or don't clap but is it really necessary to have yet another thread with sanctimonious posters posting how they refuse to clap ?

WotnoPasta · 09/04/2020 20:35

Bloody fireworks again here, I closed the curtains for the cat.

You’d be an arsehole if you were like my neighbours who go out and clap every week, and then have their children and grandchildren round to visit constantly.

1Morewineplease · 09/04/2020 20:36

As I’ve mentioned on another thread... a doctor from the Bristol Royal Infirmary a few days ago, on the news , said that, while he and his colleagues were very touched by this clapping, they would much rather that people stayed indoors in order to thank the NHS.

MereDintofPandiculation · 09/04/2020 20:36

Someone on a local facebook page said (in seriousness) "not clapping should be classed as a hate crime".

tellmetostopbutikeepongoing · 09/04/2020 20:38

Oh just do it or don't, either is fine. All the debates about it are so unnecessary!

DrWAnker · 09/04/2020 20:39

Clap.ordon't clap but is it really necessary to have yet another thread with sanctimonious posters posting how they refuse to clap ?

Not really too much else going just now though, is there?Grin

starrynight19 · 09/04/2020 20:40

If you want to stay indoors and thank quietly why post on here to say you don’t agree with it.
Why can’t people just do it in their own way without being judged clap or don’t simple