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Bad dog owners

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Rollercoaster1920 · 09/04/2020 12:35

Yet another dog owners thread! IANBU for being annoyed, but AIBU for wishing that something changes to stop these things from happening?

Today I caught the neighbour from a few doors up retrieving their dog from my front garden. This week there have been two days when a dog poo has been left on my front lawn. Shouted at them, they claim that it wasn't them earlier in the week. Yeah, right. Scum (generally - not just this incident).

Also today an old lady's dog came up to my children and licked them on the hands and faces. Pretty grim at the best of times, but right now? Get a lead and use it if your dog isn't under control.

It's not the dogs, its the people. But how as a society do we change it? Dog licencing didn't really make any difference to this type of behaviour, even a bloody pandemic doesn't seem to to. So how on earth do we get these people to change their behaviour?

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missyB1 · 09/04/2020 16:22

I work in a nursery, believe me kids bite!

Flower1309 · 09/04/2020 16:24

@buccanarab sorry to hear you've been bitten by do many people that's very bizarre Confused I've never been bitten by a person only nipped by dogs. I was however chased by a dog when I was 7, scared the shit out of me. Ran straight into a wheely bin. Owner said he was just over excited. I have a scar under my eye on my face to remind me, because his dog was just over excited and over friendly.

Flower1309 · 09/04/2020 16:28

I don't dislike dogs btw if that's the impression I'm giving, just owners who think people have to like their rowdy animal just because they do. Sad

Alsohuman · 09/04/2020 16:28

doesn't take a mastermind to work out when someone's pretending to look for a bag while having no intention of picking it up. It's so obvious

It really isn’t obvious at all. It can take me a minute or so to find a bag. I always pick it up. It’s just another made up opportunity to have a pop at dog owners.

Sonichu · 09/04/2020 16:29

Haven't had this thread for a couple of days.

Flower1309 · 09/04/2020 16:30

@alsohuman ah yes I made it up that never happens.

CaptainCabinets · 09/04/2020 16:31

I’m failing to see why you shouted at your neighbour for retrieving her dog? Would you have rather she left it there? Confused my dog got into my neighbour’s garden yesterday (didn’t realise there was a loose fence panel), she found him fast asleep, sunbathing and covered in blossom under her tree Smile but she didn’t start screeching at me!

If you were shouting at her about the poo then that’s also unreasonable as you’ve no proof it was her dog at all! My dad’s neighbour threw cat shit over the fence every day for a week because he thought my dad’s indoor cats were shitting in his garden, which they clearly were not.

Witchcraftandhokum · 09/04/2020 16:35

I think people who refer to others as 'scum' are much worse than most dog owners

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Rollercoaster1920 · 09/04/2020 23:15

I shouted at my neighbour to tell him to get their dog out of my garden and under control. Not leave it there!

Whilst I can't 100% guarantee this dog did the previous 2 poos, I'm pretty certain. Dogs are creatures of habit. Two poos this week, I was keeping an eye out for the culprit!

And yes, I do refer to them as scum. Anti social behaviour, convicted criminals.

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BogRollBOGOF · 09/04/2020 23:58

There's a lot of selfish inconsiderate twats out there and many of them happen to own dogs.

My DCs are dog phobic purely because of "friendly" dogs. In their toddler years, they had umpteen experiences of random dogs bounding up, literally in their faces. I remember once when my 1 year old was eating his lunch in his pram, he ended up having a tug of war with the dog trying to bite the food out of his hand. The other DC had an incident where a large dog came running up. DS turned and tried to run away, tripped and fell, and screamed as he was sniffed all over. I will credit the owner that she was mortified and appologetic. I've had innumerable encounters with dogs jumping up at me in the local woods, and while I accept that my shoes and hems of trousers get muddy in there, it is not de facto willing for my thighs and coat to be slathered in mud by some random dog.

It never ceases to astound me how many owners of poorly controlled dogs are oblivious to the distress and inconvenience that their dog's behaviour causes to others.
There was one time I was walking through the woods at a similar pace to a woman and her free range dog. On three seperate occasions, the dog jumped up. I firmly told the dog to get "down". The third time, I used my teacher voice to tell/ ask the owner to put the dog on the lead as it was the third time the dog jumped up. Apparently I was scaring it Hmm I was just wandering along playing pokemon!

I actually quite like dogs. I just don't like the consequences of feckless owners, and I'm sure that many concientious ownees resent them too. Well I know one is from the DIY sign they've errected on the local green about fouling and giving all dog owners a bad name!

PumpkinP · 10/04/2020 02:13

Yep glad someone pointed it out but it’s totally obvious when someone is pretending to look, they without fail look behind to see who is watching, when they spot you that’s when they start looking for the invisible bag, as you carry on walking to the end of the road they are still there ruffling about in their bag pretending they haven’t found it yet. Happens pretty much every time. You just know that they’ve walked off the minute no ones watching. Do you think the people who leave dogs poo on the pavement just do it blatantly?

Alsohuman · 10/04/2020 11:00

There’s never dog poo on the pavement where I live so I’ve never needed the crystal ball that seems to be standard issue in some places.

CaptainCabinets · 10/04/2020 12:04

@Rollercoaster1920 but your OP says you caught your neighbour retrieving their dog? So which is it?

AwrightDoreenTakeAFuckinDayOff · 10/04/2020 12:10

Which is it?

Another dramatically embellished goady dog thread probably.

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Rollercoaster1920 · 10/04/2020 12:29

@CaptainCabinets It's not that hard, dog plus neighbour in my front garden. Neighbour calling dog.

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CaptainCabinets · 10/04/2020 12:54

You’ve said two different things, though? Either you ‘caught’ your neighbour already retrieving their dog or you shouted at your neighbour to come and retrieve their dog. Can’t be both can it hun, unless you’re talking shit Smile

AlrightDoreenTakeAFuckinDayOff · 10/04/2020 12:59

Loving the name Captain.

Love, Mrs Tony Harrison

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Rollercoaster1920 · 10/04/2020 13:18

Ah @CaptainCabinets. Your logic fails you, I haven't said two different things. Your insults and misdirection show you up.
I didn't ask them to come and get their dog. I chivvied them up showing my displeasure.

What would you have done?

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CaptainCabinets · 10/04/2020 13:24

I wouldn’t have shouted at someone ALREADY collecting their dog. Even if they were ‘scum’ as you do delicately put it.

anothernotherone · 10/04/2020 13:38

People saying that there were more out of control dogs in the '70s (quite why the feral dogs stealing children's icecreams out of their hands - therefore unavoidably having teeth very close to children's faces - is meant to be a nice story is hard to understand) are avoiding the fact dog ownership in the UK has exploded over recent years.

In the early 70s there were about 4 million dogs in the UK, and there are 9 million plus now, despite the fact that their are fewer households with an adult home all day.

There are far more badly trained or untrained dogs now, and the "fur baby" type of owner who indulges their dog beyond anything they'd do with a human child and creates a snappy, barky, untrained, undisciplined animal in the process used to be incredibly rare and universally ridiculed but is now incredibly common and widely defended.

missyB1 · 10/04/2020 14:07

Actually what I said about the 70s was that dogs were often out unaccompanied by a human. I never see dogs roaming by themselves now! Whether dogs were worse or better behaved then depends on what you consider to be a well behaved dog surely? I suspect dogs were better socialised then, and there didn’t seem to be so many kids apparently “terrified” of dogs, perhaps because we all came into contact with them.
And parents weren’t so precious about their kids either, so Mac the collie nicking ice creams was considered par for the course, certainly not something for our mothers to clutch their pearls about!

gntpz · 10/04/2020 14:10

This thread is about DOGS not children for those dickheads that actually are trying to compare!! Knob heads

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