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Feeling guilty but need a break

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LonesomeRange · 09/04/2020 09:30

Last year was pretty awful and I had to make some life changes to stop myself falling into a depression. Before this crisis my life had totally turned around and things were massively improving and I was feeling really great.

I am still working p/t in a necessary job right now, but not NHS. This is stressing me out as I don't want to bring the virus back to my young family but I am happy to do it whereas a lot of my colleagues have chosen to be furloughed. I have, for the past 2 years, worked voluntarily for a charity and at the moment we have been stood down. They got in contact yesterday to ask me if I could start doing some things at home. I am also being asked to help out with my elderly neighbours, the people in my village and then we have our own elderly relatives who are on the phone twice a day upset and needing our support. I also have primary age DC at home.

I feel guilty because I am not doing more for the community and not driving round all day delivering prescriptions for people. Also feeling guilty because I just don't want to reengage with my voluntary role at the moment. It has nothing to do with sick people and I just don't have the motivation to help out at the moment. I feel like I need to look after my own family and try and manage my own MH whilst also going to my p/t job, which puts me at risk.

Feeling guilty though about focusing on myself but feel I need to shut the door and pretend I am not in to everyone until I have to go to work.

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MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 09/04/2020 10:08

You're doing a lot already, don't feel guilty, we are only human and we can only take in as much. You are already doing a lot more than so many others!

EmeraldShamrock · 09/04/2020 10:14

Guilt is a horrible feeling try to ignore it, you've no reason for it.
Say no to the charity for starters you are doing enough charity helping your neighbour and family members. MH services will be stretched to the max after this, mind and protect yours.
Look after yourself

mcmooberry · 09/04/2020 10:33

You certainly are doing plenty! Would email them back and in a firm and friendly way decline stating briefly that you have children at home to educate plus lots of relatives to shop for plus still working. No reason to feel guilty!

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