Trying with a group

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I'm in a group of friends, some from
school, some from university, and some of us are closer than others.

I've been feeling quite lonely with the coronavirus. I see other people having online parties and decided to text the group to ask whether they'd like to do an online pub quiz.

One person out of six has replied and they've all seen the message. It's not that difficult to say, I'm sorry I can't I've got work to do or just reply.

I feel like such an idiot. My message is just hanging there.

Where do I go from here? AIBU to expect them to just answer? Maybe they are going through a lot with the virus? I'm so embarrassed.

I love the idea of an online pub quiz but I’m struggling to get my head round how it would work. Why not try something a bit simpler to start with? Do they all FaceTime happily? I had a huge dislike of it three weeks ago but as I’m now having to do webinar conference calls for work I’m more comfortable with it. My friends and I do an online coffee morning every now and then.

Don’t be embarrassed. I think WhatsApp has gone a bit mad message-wise with most people at the moment with everyone being on lockdown. I seriously doubt there is any malice in it. I’m normally really good at replying to messages but being housebound with a 7 month and 3 year old has meant that my normal rest opportunities (where I’d sit and have a cup of tea and catch up on social admin) have disappeared. I’m constantly ‘on’ until everyone is in bed! If I were you I’d send a follow up message. As you said, you’re all friends!

@wasail My friends and I have taken it in turns to be the quiz master and have used Zoom. Works really well!

@TenerifeGrief thanks, we have been using the quiz part of the Houseparty app which is quite fun and proves we are all rather slow . I think I’ll organise a pub quiz as a moral boost for my employees who are all furloughed. Might even add in a home made cocktail competition

It’s not about you. It’s about them. They know they’d cheat

They might not like the idea of being in a quizz but are not sure how to politely say no - it’s not that they can say they are too busy or have plans! Just call them for a chat - nothing formal like a quizz night needed.

Not my cup of tea so I’d not reply and leave it to the ones who want to do it.

Yeah true. I think I just took it personally