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Does dh still have to sleep on the sofa?

48 replies

Bdayupset · 08/04/2020 22:56

Evening.

We started self isolation on the 18th March, because dd was unwell, with covid symptoms, 9 days before that date. Ds became ill on this day. He's still exhibiting symptoms. I became ill on the 1st April (April fools!) I'm still exhibiting symptoms. It sucks.

None of us in the house are vulnerable (I have very mild asthma), dh has only been going out to food shop once a week, has done 2 shifts in care homes, a couple of weeks ago, ds hasn't been out at all (he was made for this) and my daughter just has a lingering cough, so she's been out on walks. I've been stuck inside since the 1st April. The youngest is getting a bit of a cough, but full of pep.

My dh has been sleeping on the sofa. Totally devoid of any symptoms (as always; he says he should be studied) and gallantly running around after all of us. Does he still need to sleep on the sofa? I'm sure he'd get better sleep in an actual bed!

Sorry, I feel like I've totally over-explained everything, I'm blabbering.

A very short funny story though - when my son was helping unwrap a pack of new Knickers for me earlier, he held them up and said 'wow, so big!'. Well played kid (he's 5)

OP posts:
PawPawNoodle · 08/04/2020 22:59

I dont think he really needed to sleep on the sofa in the first place.

aupresdemonarbre · 08/04/2020 23:01

If he doesn’t want to get it he needs to isolate himself from you for a week after your symptoms end I think?

Lazypuppy · 08/04/2020 23:17

Why was/is he sleeping on the sofa??

AgathaX · 08/04/2020 23:22

He shouldn't be doing shifts in care homes.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/04/2020 23:25

Him sleeping on the sofa is pointless.

OneEpisode · 08/04/2020 23:25

People with the virus can share. Dh could then clean a bedroom and use that. He should be regarded as in contact with the last of the family to show symptoms and be shouldn't leave the house for two weeks after that.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 08/04/2020 23:27

Read through this, OP and for goodness sake tell your husband he can’t work yet! He could end up carrying it into the nursing home!

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-stay-at-home-guidance/stay-at-home-guidance-for-households-with-possible-coronavirus-covid-19-infection

dontgobaconmyheart · 08/04/2020 23:28

If you're symptomatic and it has only been a week, why is he going to care homes for shifts? Why was he going full stop when he lives with family who have symptoms. Unless I have grossly misunderstood-You realise he could be a carrier and this is grossly reckless?

User7764217 · 08/04/2020 23:29

Your timeline isn’t clear so I may be wrong but should you all be isolating?

User7764217 · 08/04/2020 23:29

Shouldn’t you all, sorry

CrocodilesCry · 08/04/2020 23:30

Good grief.

If anyone in your household has symptoms he should NOT have been working or even leaving the house for 14 days.

Let alone working in a care home where people are the most vulnerable.

Read this - and really question why you, your DH or his employers aren't even aware of the rules IIf you live with someone with symptoms he should have been at home for 14 days!

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/self-isolation-advice

shineaflight · 08/04/2020 23:33

He's going into care homes? Seriously. Got to be a wind up

CrocodilesCry · 08/04/2020 23:34

Sorry but you must be joking - find a hobby.

Merryoldgoat · 08/04/2020 23:36

I don’t understand.

  1. You started self isolation 9 days after someone in the house was sick?
  1. Your husband did shifts in a care home whilst people at home were unwell and he’s been out shopping when you’re supposed to be self isolating?
indemMUND · 08/04/2020 23:44

He didn't need to sleep on the sofa. He shouldn't have done shifts in care homes. Anyone with a lingering cough should not be going out for walks. The whole household should have isolated from the first symptoms. Come on.

Chimpd0g · 08/04/2020 23:50

He shouldn’t be going out 🤦‍♀️

CrocodilesCry · 08/04/2020 23:55

I'll just leave this here and just hope you are bored and none of this is true.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-beds-bucks-herts-52175891

Nottherealslimshady · 09/04/2020 00:06

Your husband shouldn't be working for a start. Why did you start isolation 9 days after one of your household got symptoms. Do you understand that just because your husband doesn't babe symptoms doesn't mean he isn't carrying it in his breath and on his clothes and hands? He could well have been directly responsible for ending someones life by now. No joke.

HonkersVonFlapperson · 09/04/2020 00:22

None of you should be going out of the house! Who the fuck is taking your daughter for walks?

Your partner should not be going into a care home full of vulnerable people whilst you have poorly people in your house!

JKScot4 · 09/04/2020 00:24

He done the shifts a few weeks ago!!!

CrocodilesCry · 09/04/2020 00:27

He done the shifts a few weeks ago!!!

Yes - when both his children had symptoms and when the guidance was very clear on self-isolation.

Waveysnail · 09/04/2020 01:19

If you live with others

If you live with others, the person who has symptoms should stay at home for 7 days from the day their symptoms started. All other household members should isolate as a household for 14 days even if they don’t have symptoms themselves. The 14-day period starts from the first day the person had symptoms.

If others develop symptoms within the 14 days, they need to stay at home for 7 days from the day their symptoms started. They should do this even if it takes them over the 14-day isolation period.

If you have children, keep following the self-isolation advice where possible. You can find advice about staying at home with children throughParent Club.

Passing on the infection

It’s likely that people living within a household will infect each other or may already be infected. Staying at home for 14 days will greatly reduce the risk of the household passing the infection to others in the community.

Evidence suggests that people who develop symptoms are very unlikely to pose an infection risk to other people beyond the 7th day of illness, so these people can return to some of their normal activities at this point but must continue to abide by theadvice for everyone to stay at homethat has been issued by the Government to the entire population.

People they have been in close contact with (such as those living in the same household) may pick up the virus but not show any symptoms for up to 14 days. These people are asked to isolate for 14 days so that they are sure they are not going to get ill and pass the illness on to others outside the household.

parababe · 09/04/2020 06:18

Wow.... just Wow!! I am astounded by your lack of knowledge on what Isolation means! Your husband should NOT be going to work, let alone in a care home environment. I literally have no words. How do you think that this is appropriate...…? is your head buried in the sand? Do you actually have any idea what is happening in the world out there? Why is your daughter going for walks if she still has a 'lingering cough'....? Get a grip and sort yourselves out. You currently are posing a serious threat to numerous people including, sadly, all the elderly people that your Husband is coming into contact with at work. Shame on you!

Thatnameistaken · 09/04/2020 06:29

I read that as the care home shifts being a couple of weeks ago, rather than him nipping between his pestilent family and the vulnerable elderly currently.
If I was in the same situation as your husband I'd be on the sofa at least until your symptoms had subsided.

DebbieFiderer · 09/04/2020 06:53

It's fine to go out if you still have a cough as long as no fever and more than 7 days from symptoms starting. The cough can linger for weeks. The guidance is very clear on that!

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