Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

MissBax, I called my parents Steve and Ann. It was a joke because it was how they were introduced at a party by someone who'd only just met them. Their names were Eve and Stan. 😂

Oh. Those who talk about themselves and never ask about you or yours.

Anyone that uses the word said when nobody has said anything. Men with facial hair that needs to be shaved with precision every morning. Men with said facial hair that wear a roll neck sweater.
See what I did there

"Oh. Those who talk about themselves and never ask about you or yours"

But see it annoys me when people expect to be asked and won'tsay anything unless they are asked. It's not an interview, just join in with whatever it is you want to say.

People who are meek conversationalists annoy me.

@FunkyKingston I don't get the issue with playing video games, they're really detailed these days and have whole storylines, the same as a movie. I don't play but totally get those who do.

I don't get why adults (or even children really) love Harry Potter so much. It's just really well marketed pap.

@loveislovely

But see it annoys me when people expect to be asked and won'tsay anything unless they are asked. It's not an interview, just join in with whatever it is you want to say

I agree!!! My sister is like this. She will phone for a chat, I will ask what her news is and she will say 'not much really'. So I will fill her in on my news and then she throws a strop, saying I 'didnt let her get a word in' and 'never ask her anything about herself'. Fgs if you want to say something just say it 🙄 I'm not a mind reader and I hate scripted conversation.

But it would have put me off.

It would of put you off, surely, Cattenberg

@MissBax

I call them mummy and daddy. I was never allowed to call them anything else/it’s normal for me/I find it really fucking annoying how on every thread someone says that’s “ick” of me or whatever.

@LoveIsLovely

Fully agree about this! Friends and family need to just say what they want and not wait to be asked!

People who say: ‘it is what it is’
People who say ‘ can I get’ when ordering something
Adults who don’t drink tea
Adults standing too close in a queue- not topical, this always bugs me.
People who holiday in locations who are ignorant/ or don’t care about the level exploitation occurring in their chosen destination. E.g Dubai (slave labour), Thailand (peado tourism)
Colleagues who brown nose the boss
Colleagues who think I need a blow by blow account of their home life.
People who interrupt
Members of the PTA

The sort of people who find the positive in everything. They will find the positives about lockdown and never admit that aspects are just not that positive. Ever.
Perfect mums.
People who just never listen and too self absorbed with themselves.

Oh also people with those stick drawn personalised family stickers in their car windows.

Oh also people with those stick drawn personalised family stickers in their car windows

Baby on board fucking signs in cards!

People who use 'gift' as a verb.

People that think you can change sex.

@MissBax Do you mean people hoping to transition?

What’s wrong with people who don’t drink coffee or tea?

It’s weird. Dh doesn’t to be fair it is his only fault. Remember my parents having “coffee time” together at 11 ish. We both now wfh not the same if one of you just having a glass of water 🙄

Hyperbole. I have a friend who is always absolutely disgusted, utterly enthralled, finds things totally vile etc when the reality is she just does or doesn’t like something.

People who are obsessed with designer anything and always at such pains to point out how well they have done in life.

Shouting in the street.

That goopy sleep stuff in someone's eye. It moves around on their eyeball and they don't even know it's there. shudders

@LoveIsLovely
I think the gaming thing is snobbery, not sure what hobbies their DHs are allowed since MN all hate cycling, golf, football etc

Women with long, flicky hair that they won't, or can't, stop fecking flicking! Yes, you ARE a pretty pony... 👏👏👏

"The sort of people who find the positive in everything. They will find the positives about lockdown and never admit that aspects are just not that positive. Ever."

I've seen this referred to as toxic positivity. I also hate it. I find people who can't just accept that some things are shit or depressing to be extremely emotional immature. You are allowed to feel something beyond bland pleasantness.

I think a lot of these people must end up extremely depressed and anxious trying to deny their basic feelings.

My coworkers, who calls everyone “babyboy” and “babygirl” has a bad case of the toxic positivities. If she asks anyone how they are and they respond with “I haven’t been sleeping well”, or “still quite down about my partner leaving me”, or “I don’t know whether to go into debt on the vet bill or have our beloved pet put down”, or “worried about my mum who has cancer”, she waves her hands in a shooing motion and says “oh well!! It can always be worse!!” And people slink away chastised while she shouts at their departing back “Bye babygirl!! I miss you already!!”

When people lick their knife. Makes me imagine them slicing their tongue with it.

When people allow their dog to slobber on you. I like dogs but that is not cute.