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To put a bolt on the door?

5 replies

Frlrlrubert · 08/04/2020 14:24

Lighthearted in that I won't actually do it but...

Working from home. We're lucky enough to have an 'office' in a separate room downstairs. When DH is working in the office the door is closed and I keep DD (3) away from him and only occasionally disturb to bring him coffee.

Now, he's been furloughed, and I'm a teacher. In the first couple of weeks the workload from school was pretty light, we set some work for the first fortnight and then there wasn't all that much to do, now it's ramping up with setting work for the coming weeks and marking and giving feedback on what the pupils have done so far.

When I'm working in the office he keeps popping in to get stuff, or lets DD come to visit me, or pops in to tell me about something she just did, and I'm getting annoyed.

It doesn't help that I can hear him on the phone to his friend, who he used to run a business with, stepped away from it a decade ago, but still occasionally helps out with (unpaid). Recently this friend has taken on more than he can handle without DH and seems to think the free support is unlimited and available 24/7. DH gets frustrated with this but still answers the phone at mealtimes, bedtimes, family times, and just complains to me instead of having word with his friend.

I should also add that I will go and use my words in a minute, but felt like a MN rant first would help me do that more calmly.

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GoodnessSake · 08/04/2020 14:26

Rubber wedge under door, or folded up magazine if you don't have one, go for it!

Frlrlrubert · 08/04/2020 15:06

Thanks, I can now hear him on the phone while DD is upstairs unsupervised and it sounds like she's wrecking the place so I'm going to have to go and politely suggest he does some parenting.

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StatementKnickers · 08/04/2020 15:11

I think you should do it! Or how about a hotel-style Do Not Disturb sign?

managinged · 08/04/2020 15:26

As previous posters suggested, use some sort of wedge under the door so he won't be able to come wandering in and tape up sign on door at his eye level: please do not disturb, in big block letters.

If he sulks, just ignore the sulking.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 08/04/2020 15:40

Do it back to him. Send DD in. Pop in to tell him some inane crap etc.

Or just tell him to fucking stop it.

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