To watch the boxing whilst looking after my sisters

[Guyonhere1]

So I had to look after my younger two sisters - 5 and 8, for my mother, as there’s a considerable age gap between myself and them. Whilst I let them play some games and made them some lunch, I was watching the boxing in the background.

However, when my mum came back and saw that the boxing was on tv, she got mad and shouted at me, saying that violence shouldn’t be on the tv whilst I’m looking after the children, even though I was looking after my sisters anyway. AIBU?

Presumably you live with her so you should be fully aware of her opinion on Boxing?

I have to ask @Guyonhere1 - why exactly are you on Mumsnet?

Surely you knew that she wouldn’t like boxing, and it is utterly inappropriate to watch whilst looking after young children

@CherieBabySpliffUp she’s never said anything to me when I watch it normally. I mean, she’s happy to watch an Anthony Joshua fight, but I don’t understand why it was a problem. If she didn’t want them to see, she could have told me before or done it nicely afterwards.

@Dishwashersaurous when I was watching it I did tell them that they shouldn’t punch anyone / do those things to anyone. Therefore, as they understood this, I thought there was no problem. Many of my friends have younger siblings and take them to shows

@BIWI I was just asking for some advice, because I was upset with how she reacted

Plenty of kids younger than that do taekwondo and kickboxing and compete - they see older kids and adults spar and as far as I can see they're not traumatised by it. Each to their own I guess.

Got your sky sports back then op?

Do you and your wife live with your mum or have you mixed households? If so YABU.

@0nwardsAndUpwards and @Guyonhere1 - you are absolutely right that the shouting and overreaction was wrong - I said so in my first post on here. Also, if she lets them watch WWE, that makes it harder for you to have realised she wouldn’t be happy with the boxing.

I wasn't asking why you post this thread @Guyonhere1. I was wondering why you are on Mumsnet.

However, I understand where she’s coming from. WWE is fake, boxing isn’t.

Thanks for the advice !

@BIWI During my life I’ve needed advice but haven’t found a good place to ask. Reddit and Quora were meh, so I’m trying Mumsnet. Is that ok?

You're a bit obsessed with sport aren't you?

Not something I watch but if you’re mum is that bad tell her to look after her own kids tbh
She just needed to say look I would rather that wasn’t on whilst you’ve got the kids I hope you don’t mind

She is being a hypocrite if they watch WWE as many kids don’t realise it’s fake and they use weapons s etc to hit each other.

I think she overreacted, but she does care for us all, so I think I’ll just let it slide. She is normally appreciative

You're a young, male, boxer - who has made his support for another misogynistic boxer pretty clear. I'm wondering just exactly how you think MN could help you? Unless you have another agenda?

Mmmm. Actually I don't think boxing as a sport is any worse than violence depicted in soaps. Generally the violence in boxing is within the rules of the sport and therefore socially acceptable. The violence depicted in soaps is abusive, sexual, socially unacceptable.

It's not as easy to say 'but it's fictional' as it is intended for entertainment. So it's ok to watch someone being the victim of domestic violence or rape against their will, and make up can be as graphic as real injuries, but watching 2 people who have chosen to fight each other isn't?

I wouldn’t be bothered personally, it’s an Olympic sport. If she doesn’t want them watching it that’s also fine as they’re her children but not great to shout at you over it, I’d just ask that it wasn’t on with the children around in future.

@minisoksmakehardwork - I would assume that dramas with graphic representations of violence/rape would have a warning beforehand, and be after the watershed, making it clear they were not suitable for children - I don’t know if televised boxing carries any sort of guidance about its suitability for children’s viewing.

Tell your mum find someone else to look after her children if she doesn't like . At that age my children wouldn't have cared about seeing boxing . Surely she should be grateful not having a go.

I used to watch Tom and Jerry at your sister's ages. Now that's violent.Your mum was BU.

I treat boxing like any other sport. It discussed and viewed here and isn't a taboo.

So I would say YANBU.
If you live with her then you need to suck it up and do whatever she says. Her house her rules.

If you don't and you were coming over to do her a favour then you just say no next time and she pays for a service that she can dictate.

@Guyonhere1

Are you mixing households? Or are you changing details? Because the other day you were complaining that your partner got rid of sky sports and before that you were defending that disgusting 'how to punch your wife and knock her out' video that that boxer made.

Is your mum your partner? Or vice versa? Because if you are watching boxing matches whilst you are supposed to be caring for young children then I don't blame either mum/dp for getting rid of the sports package. I said it on you last threads, you don't like women very much at all.

Ah, he's gone running off to Mummy so he can watch repeats of sports fixtures all day.

It all makes sense now.