To be upset that partner is taking no interest in baby

[Sadandalone01]

I'm 21 weeks pregnant following 2 previous miscarriages and partner doesn't seem to be taking any interest in the baby. We both planed for this baby, and for the first 16 weeks I hardly spoke about it as I was scared something would go wrong. Now I can feel it move around all day I'm getting more excited and looking forward to having a baby and looking into things such as prams and car seats. However, when I show my partner a pram he just tells me he's not interested and he is sick of me speaking about the baby. If I tell him the baby is moving alot he just keeps saying preg brain to me, saying all I do is speak about the baby. He tried to make me a deal earlier that he would spend time with me only if I didn't mention the baby. He has a child from a previous relationship and constantly tells me this isn't his first rodeo, which he knows I don't like as this is my first baby. Am I being unreasonable getting upset?

He tried to make me a deal earlier that he would spend time with me only if I didn't mention the baby.

This ^ together with ‘banning’ you from ‘boys time’ at the weekend makes me think he’s a bit of a controlling knobhead, I have to say.

I have to return to work following Mat leave anyway as I'm a nurse so can't be out of practice too long, and I'm the higher earner in the household so couldn't afford to be off longer then 9 - 12 months

Maybe he’s scared of something going wrong with this pregnancy too.

Read what you said - you hardly spoke about it because you were worried but now you can feel it moving, you’re excited. He can’t feel it moving. He’s still where you were a few weeks ago

^This is what I read into your OP too. And you’ve already said that he’s a good father so I see no reason why he wouldn’t be the same with this child. I think you need to talk to him.